Actually, personally, if a girl just walked up to me and started talking to me, I'd love it! Do you have any idea the mountains I'd climb to make something like that happen?

And yeah, as a guy, it gets real boring after awhile, when you realize you always have to start the conversation, you always have to have the initiative, etc. It's almost like she's just there not doing anything. Do something! We find that very arousing!

I find myself falling for guys I've hardly met, I get crushes on guys minutes after meeting them, day dreaming on what it would be like. I've had a crush on every guy in my class in college including the lecturer. I even get silly crushes on guys in films, bands and books (currently korean filmstar lee junki and fictional character Edward cullen ).

A couple I've had have been almost painful, I was almost certain I loved my lecturer in college. All he did was talk to me, and I'd never actually go past my limit as his student but, I felt really depressed because of it because I knew I couldn't be with him. I know now that it wasn't love, but i keep torturing myself over these things.

Am I just really lonely? More than anything I want someone, a boyfriend, someone to wake up to, someone to talk on the phone with or go anywhere with just for the sake of it, someone I can just share everything with and be best friends with. I hate being alone and single, I can't stand my own company anymore.

granted lonlyness sucks,and id give anything to fill the void that the years have left in my heart, but depending on the way you look at it lonelyness isnt all that bad, when your alone, thares no hurt except the feeling of being alone, when thares others around you, you feel happy, love, and many other feelings, but all those positive feelings can turn negtive incredibly quick. and then what? your alone again, but now insted of one negitive emotion, thare a many.

This post was last modified: 06-30-2008 04:04 PM by hawk9007.

I've never really thought about it, but the idea of having a girl observing you, dying to talk to you, who thinks you're super cute, but is too shy to talk to you, is pretty mindblowing. I've always been that person, but to think that someone could feel that way about yourself....Wow! Just... wow!

Of course, I could never imagine anything like that would ever happend. I mean, I don't have the courage to approach girls like that, so I can't really expect that any girl to do that for me. Would still be awesome though! ^^

Shy girls are pretty hot. But a girl that takes the initiative...that's even hotter. (And I'm saying this because the last relationship I had with a shy girl didn't work out for exactly that reason...no initiative.)

In the end, though, it comes down to style for me. A girl can be shy or forward, whatever. What really matters is how she pulls it off. (Haha and yeah, I thought about skipping the double entendre; but my wicked self decided to stick with it. )

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I thought I was over the crush phase until I stupidly fell for a girl that worked across the hall from me. I ended up getting to know her pretty well. At one point she even asked me to design a tattoo for her...definitely the most beautiful canvas I've ever had any artwork on.

Then she found another job and moved away...The End.

aw, that sucks just lost, that would really hurt, if I had been in a situation like that

*hugs justlost*

yay, i'm not alone!

@justlost: wow, that's awful. that must have been really terrible

@freakin_amazin:

i totally agree with this. i'd probably just worry that i'd be boring the girl or something, but i wouldn't mind the girl starting a conversation with me.

This post was last modified: 07-02-2008 11:06 AM by skapunk23.

Thanks everyone for your replies!

@ zraskolnikov


Thank you, zraskolnikov =]. I absolutely hate being so shy, so any confidence gained during uni would be a huge thing for me. I think you're right though, if i could pull it off then it can only do more good than harm and in the long run it's about me trying to get myself out there instead of being a shy loner all my life.

@ Freakin_Amazin

That's a good point! I don't think I do know what I want in a man, to be honest. I think experience probably plays a big part in knowing what you want (something i lack haha), any type I start off with quickly changes with the next guy I meet and who i suddenly decide is "the one", then it changes all over again. Any preferences I have prior to meeting someone usually change very quickly with me, I guess out of all the things I want, company is the biggest part

@Qui

Hey Qui =] I sometimes wish I was a bit more like that, I'm not sure which side is worse but atleast then maybe I won't keep giving myself false hope only to be brought back to reality and get hurt all over again.

@ evanescencefan91

I'm like that, I hesitate to actually talk to a guy i like because i'm almost certain it'll end with me looking like a prat and him wondering who the hell i am haha. I suppose if I was more carefree, I'd just shrug it off and move on but with me, I'd think over it for weeks and weeks, even something tiny like someone looking at me weird.

@hawk9007

That's true! =] but then I'm always left thinking about what it could be like, i guess even the experience would be enough for me, even if i turned bad and I got hurt again, I get hurt regardless when I'm falling for people i know i'll never have anything with. x

@Justlost, That's awful I'm sorry! I think to get that close and then to lose them would be terrible. x

@skapunk23, I'm like that too. I've missed out on chances because I've got no confidence to show interest in anyone, with me it ends with just liking them from a distance and that's it. I always regret it though.

soph x

Thank you...It was a real disappointment when she left. She was a sweet girl.

Awww, I'm sorry to hear that man. I had a great friend at work a couple of years ago. She was just great, and she was the only one that I could actually talk about deeper feelings with. We even started to spend some time outside work together. Then she got another job and moved to her boyfriend on the other side of town. Haven't seen her since. Sucks so hard, I know how you feel =(