I find myself falling for guys I've hardly met, I get crushes on guys minutes after meeting them, day dreaming on what it would be like. I've had a crush on every guy in my class in college including the lecturer. I even get silly crushes on guys in films, bands and books (currently korean filmstar lee junki and fictional character Edward cullen ).

A couple I've had have been almost painful, I was almost certain I loved my lecturer in college. All he did was talk to me, and I'd never actually go past my limit as his student but, I felt really depressed because of it because I knew I couldn't be with him. I know now that it wasn't love, but i keep torturing myself over these things.

Am I just really lonely? More than anything I want someone, a boyfriend, someone to wake up to, someone to talk on the phone with or go anywhere with just for the sake of it, someone I can just share everything with and be best friends with. I hate being alone and single, I can't stand my own company anymore.

I know the feeling too well, and I think it goes back to just being lonely. I feel it's indicative of desperation. It's not exactly the kind of state I like being in, to be honest.

One day you'll find someone.

I find myself falling for guys I've hardly met, I get crushes on guys minutes after meeting them, day dreaming on what it would be like. I've had a crush on every guy in my class in college including the lecturer. I even get silly crushes on guys in films, bands and books (currently korean filmstar lee junki and fictional character Edward cullen ).

A couple I've had have been almost painful, I was almost certain I loved my lecturer in college. All he did was talk to me, and I'd never actually go past my limit as his student but, I felt really depressed because of it because I knew I couldn't be with him. I know now that it wasn't love, but i keep torturing myself over these things.

Am I just really lonely? More than anything I want someone, a boyfriend, someone to wake up to, someone to talk on the phone with or go anywhere with just for the sake of it, someone I can just share everything with and be best friends with. I hate being alone and single, I can't stand my own company anymore.

i used to have crushes all the time, until one of those crushes crushed me instead... everyones in the same boat here only that ur probably more attractive than me

Hello, Panda.

Some people around here call me Panda too. (The reason should be obvious. )

But anyways, as far as the 24/7 crush thing you seem to have- that's normal. You're just looking for someone to experience and appreciate life with. Since you feel so alone, your "radar", if you will, is hypersensitive; you pick up even the tiniest indicator that someone may be right for you. That's my take, anyway.

Again, hello...welcome to the forum.

I find myself falling for guys I've hardly met, I get crushes on guys minutes after meeting them, day dreaming on what it would be like. I've had a crush on every guy in my class in college including the lecturer. I even get silly crushes on guys in films, bands and books (currently korean filmstar lee junki and fictional character Edward cullen ).

A couple I've had have been almost painful, I was almost certain I loved my lecturer in college. All he did was talk to me, and I'd never actually go past my limit as his student but, I felt really depressed because of it because I knew I couldn't be with him. I know now that it wasn't love, but i keep torturing myself over these things.

Am I just really lonely? More than anything I want someone, a boyfriend, someone to wake up to, someone to talk on the phone with or go anywhere with just for the sake of it, someone I can just share everything with and be best friends with. I hate being alone and single, I can't stand my own company anymore.

I hear ya dudette. Sucks being alone. But ya gotta go out and meet some peeps, ya know? Ya nevah gonna find what you're lookin' for unless you hit the pavement (not literally...you'll break your hand). Get out there, start shakin' some hands. You'll get there. You'll find your man. Or something.





Disclaimer: Uh, I've never actually followed my own advice, so...good luck with that. lol.

hehe, wow, I thought I was the only one who felt this way. I had a crush on my whole class in both grade school and high school. I got a crush on most females at my work. I can get a crush on a female employee in some random store where I buy something. I don't really know if it's actually a real "crush" as much as me and my wild imagination day-dreaming off like usual. Like when I walk into a store and buy something from a really cute woman who smile and tell me to have a nice day, I walk out and think "Wow, she was really nice to me. I wonder if she have a boyfriend. What would it be like if I asked her out ect ect.... get married ect.... have childen ect...."

It's probably just a sign of desperation, but there's nothing wrong in having feelings for other people, right? It's not like you're hurting anyone, except for yourself maybe, but I've learned to not have any expectations. I just tell myself "yeah, keep dreaming"

The only thing that worries me is, how am I supposed to know when I meet the right one, if I get these feelings for most females I meet? ><

I think crushes are totally normal...we look at others in a totally different way...we look on them that their life is perfect and what it would be to be a part of their life.

I think others think the same way about us. My career is wonderful and I own my own house and car...to the outside I must be incredibly well liked and I know that people would want to have what I have...but on the inside there is this no confidence person who is a wreck at evenings and the weekends...would they really want to be me if they really knew me.

I wouldn't beat yourself up about it. There will always be crushes...mine were usually the lead lady in action films...or the lead lady in things like Star Wars lol. But we do imagine what our life would be like with them in it...and isn't it always wonderful.

The reality is that it is never like that.

I am not sure if this falls under a "crush". I do daydream a lot about the men that I meet, but in a sexual way. I don't think about dating them or marrying them. I am in the office, in comes in my coworker who is really flirty and handsome and makes a naughty comment, few minutes later I am daydreaming about a scenario where I am having a sexual moment with him.
When go to sleep at night, I also have dreams about me having really passionate and great sex with men whom I never kissed or anything.
Do any of you have similar experiences?
I used to work with this guy and we used to flirt like crazy but for some reason we never hooked up. I used to daydream about him in a sexual way all the time. He told our common friend that he did the same thing.
P.s. I think this has to do with the fact that I am a late bloomer.
My former geeky life: http://www.alonelylife.com/new-girl-dont...l#pid42555
What do you guys think?
P.p.s I am not a nympho lol

This post was last modified: 06-28-2008 11:18 PM by ClosetGeek.

Thanks jjam, sighx99, zraskolnikov, tawr!, Jeremi, davechaos and closetgeek!

Yeah I worry about that too. When I like someone i get completely carried away and everyone i meet seems "the right one", it's only after that I realise I'm being ridiculous but at the time it feels real. It is confusing though, because I can never tell if it's real or me just day dreaming again. And either way, it's usually one sided anyway.

I have thought about some people i like in intimate situations but usually i try to avoid it because if they're real people (and not fictional characters or game characters - oh god i can't believe i just admitted that haha) then i'd probably find it really hard (or, harder) to look them in the eye haha. p.s I don't think you're a nympho don't worry! !

I think half of the time I get so carried way with these thoughts that i start to believe i might be in love with them, or that I could be and that I could somehow convince them to love me back, which is stupid I know. It gets me down because it's like falling in love then having your heart broken over and over, because of course, i did really believe at the time that I loved them. Not to mention, all of it is completely one sided.

Oh me too. If I look at them in the eye, I usually blush, get sweaty hands and start being fidgety. A few weeks back I went to have some drinks with some guy I met, he went to the gents and I started to daydream. He came back and started to stare at me in the eye. I got really nervous and almost knocked over a glass of wine. I am glad he caught the glass before it fell on his lap. lol.

This post was last modified: 06-29-2008 12:16 AM by ClosetGeek.