i can't connect w/ people at all. Every time I'm out @ a party w/ some friends it seems like all my friends are getting along w/ everyone and talking to girls while I'm in the corner talking to myself in my head trying to overcome my social anxiety.

i get more depressed as every new day turns it's page just waiting until I reach the end of my book, the only thing is it just feels like i'm turning pages and not actually writing anything down. most people look back on their teens & 20's as a fun time in their life, but i haven't did anything since 15 but go on the internet and play games all because I'm too scared to go out and talk to people. I'm 22 now and almost to the point of offing myself.

also, I don't have any real idea about my own self. i always think people don't really notice me because maybe i'm not attractive enough or something, so i figure if someone does notice me it would just be negative attention. I don't think of myself as unattractive though, at least I hope not, because that's pretty much all I have to get someone to notice me. I'm not an interesting person at all (from doing nothing my entire life, but work)& I could never just go up to a girl I thought was cute and talk to her. I wish I could just find that one girl & companion to just have someone to share my memories and life with (if only I could have that)

I've been sleeping a lot & not because I'm tired, but it actually makes me feel better to sleep & pretend that I'm fast forwarding my life.

This post was last modified: 05-19-2008 12:50 AM by wzt_hearts.

i like ur avatar

thanks :3

If you see your friends all connecting with people at parties, be there with them, even if you dont really have anything to say just stand there with them. instead of being in the corner, which is because you have put yourself, atleast try and get to know people. i find its the easiest way to make new friends is threw your friends friends. You see them talking, jion in. I was at the pub a couple of nights ago for a friends 20th and i didnt know hardly anyone. i was sitting next to some random guy and i just started talking to him n we had a good old chat. All you need to do is try and get involved with the crowd, get to know your friends friends. maybe even jion a social club to get you used to meeting new people.

Also, if you start thinking negative like "no one ever notices me" then people wont because you wont make yourself noticed. If you look from there perspective it helps, would you leave the crowd of people to go talk to some random sitting in the corner? i know i wouldnt unless i knew them and i would say come over here. Alcohol is a great tool for overcoming your social anxiety, i know i open up alot more after a couple of beers. But it all comes down to your attitude.

dancing ussally helps, and if not it at least makes you feel better, it doesn't have to be good dancing, just make sure you can laugh at yourself
it works for me

i also said that somewhere before....but just dont start drinking....please...dont think is a ultimate solution to that issue

This post was last modified: 05-19-2008 11:09 AM by Incognita.

yeah by no means is it the answer, its just a little boost of confidence and makes you more comfortable in situations you would normaly feel uncomfortable.

yea..i did that coupla times---worked

I agree with the original poster about sleeping. I like to sleep as much as possible rather than spend more hours awake in this crappy life.

Sometimes I feel like I have another in my dreams. I can kind of control my dreams now from force sleeping so much.

it's kind of like playing a game.