OK, let’s get some things straight: I sympathize with some people that complain about how "lonely" they feel because they only have a husband/wife/partner and maybe few kids (!!!) But let’s get real! That's being dissatisfied with your life, feeling depressed maybe, but under no circumstances should you call this loneliness. Because if you do, it’s like mocking people like me, who are really and utterly alone and lonely.
Do YOU live alone? Do YOU come every night to a miserable empty little flat? Are YOUR few left family members living thousands of miles away?
If you haven’t had a relationship in more than 10 years, if nobody has hugged you or kissed you in years, if nobody ever calls you, if you spend all your weekends alone, crying yourself to sleep, then welcome to my club!

not trying to be mean or anything, but i do agree sometimes. people complain about how their spouse dont treat them right or how their relationship is not going well. when i read those sometimes i get sad when i because i dont even have a chance to complain about those things because i dont even have a relationship with anyone. coming home to an empty house, sit on your ass by yourself on the computer... while some of you come home to someone....

at least some of you had an experience in having/getting a gf/bf or getting married. thats something to be appreciated...

damn im truly lonely... i hope i dont sound mean.

I get You two fully and i guess i'm one of those who shouldn't complain anymore. I believe i don't really do, rather than just staying away from here. When i personally say "i know what You mean" when i'm talking to someone about their loneliness it's of course something that i also once experienced. Even though it's a thing of the past for me to truly be entirely lonely, i still can get hurt just as bad as any of You guys. I can get suicidal and all that very easily and people can be so depressed and feel so lonely even by having all those things that You mention that they hurt even more than You do. It's all relative, and i believe that everyone who came here pretty much were in the same black whole when they got here, regardless of how "physically" social they were. If You ever end up in a disastrous relationship, You can feel even worse after that than You do now since love didn't turn out to be what You thought it would. And that's even worse, believe me. Better to have loved and lose it than never to love = False

Well I have loved and lost but many many years ago now. I do still come home to an empty place and have done for 13 years now. Been single for 15 years now And ye it sucks.

I hear all of you here. I think ppl come here for different reasons. Most cos they feel lonely but you can feel lonely even when you have the wife, friends and all of the above. Different things affect different ppl in different ways. I think we would all do better if we remembered that.

And just as Robin said being in a relationship can be harder then to live alone. I do look at a lot of ppl I know in relationships and how there partner gets under there skin and I do think thank god am single sometimes. There has been plenty of ppl kill them self over a bad relashionship. And if your living with someone that is not showing you any interest or love then that can be weirs then living alone I would say.

I see where you're coming from and to an extent I agree but I'm not sure I do completely. It's not a competition.

People can have a wife, kids, family, friends, and still feel lonely. Maybe not as badly as some others in this world but everything is relative. Just because they have these things doesn't mean their life is just peachy or full. You can still be lonely even if there are lots of people in your life.

Not to say that I don't envy a lot of people who do come home to someone to make plans with for next weekend or just to tell how shitty your day was, butI don't think anyone has the right to tell someone else how they should be feeling.

Well I have loved and lost but many many years ago now. I do still come home to an empty place and have done for 13 years now. Been single for 15 years now And ye it sucks.

I hear all of you here. I think ppl come here for different reasons. Most cos they feel lonely but you can feel lonely even when you have the wife, friends and all of the above. Different things affect different ppl in different ways. I think we would all do better if we remembered that.

And just as Robin said being in a relationship can be harder then to live alone. I do look at a lot of ppl I know in relationships and how there partner gets under there skin and I do think thank god am single sometimes. There has been plenty of ppl kill them self over a bad relashionship. And if your living with someone that is not showing you any interest or love then that can be weirs then living alone I would say.

Sure, living with somebody can be hard, being in a bad relationship can make you miserable BUT... you have a choice! Either in or out! If you are not happy with your partner and IF being alone is easier and better then why don't people just brake up? I'll tell you why: because being alone is always scarier!
I refuse to believe that all those people staying in less than perfect relationships do so out of masochism. If anybody really thought that being alone is the better deal then why don't they just choose loneliness?

I can answer yes to a lot of these questions.

Yes I come home to an empty flat, I dread opening the door because I know theres no one to say "Hi" or give me a kiss or a hug, I hardly speak to people at work as I am just menial labour, I wake up alone in the morning and dread having to go through another pointless lonely day.

I havent seen my birth family for years and I dont even know where they live. My children, well I see one of them every day for about 5 minutes as I take him to school. The last two weekends I have got home at 3.30pm on Friday and havent left the flat til work time, 5.45am on Monday. Nothing to do, no where to go, no one to go with.

I have just got back from my psych appoinment and they really dont have a clue. Apparently according to a highly paid psychiatrist I must "move on from my previous relationship".

Well fuck de do - if I could do that I wouldnt be sat in front of a stranger crying my fucking eyes out. Clueless the lot of them.

I agree. Being lonely doesn't seem to discriminate against the young, old, married, divorced, etc...

It is however difficult for some of us, when people describe how lonely they are and immediately change the subject to how much they love their wife/husband and children. Meanwhile, I haven't talked to a single living person all day and get to go home to an empty house. I certainly don't mean to detract from anyone's feelings, but there's just a really diverse set of circumstances at work here. Sometimes it makes it difficult to relate.

like alot of ppl who posted, i think u can be lonely when ur alone and also when ur with ppl but ur like invisible or something. The fact that u feel the need to vent out about this problem is proof enough that ur lonely.

Sometimes i just dont know why it happens to us... how long can one last in the wait of things to get better?

I can't agree on this one. I have a wife and kid and that makes it OK right? I come home from work, walk in the house, nobody says "how was your day or glad you're home or go to hell" nothing, the kid is on the phone and the wifey is watching TV. I'll take the dog for walk and ask if anyone wants to go with us and they just shake their heads "no" I come back home and sit and watch TV the wife goes to bed, the kid goes to a friends house and I just sit there or do something by myself. I'm a ghost in my own house. And yes I'm lonely! Sometimes I like to be by myself but I never like being lonely.