Does anybody else feel threatened by women in a social scenario?
This seems really wierd even to me. But when I am with girls that I don't know (like in public places), or in a place where there are alot of girls I don't know and I'm alone, I feel almost threatened. It's wierd, it's like I have to put this shield over me because I don't trust them, but it doesn't happen with guys (unless it's obvious he hates me or something). I don't feel much fear; it's almost like it's a threat but I can handle it but I don't want to. It's more like anxiety, like I'm in a war zone and there's people out to get me. I try not to look around, just mind my own business. It's not a pleasant experience, but one that I have gotten used to because it happens so much.
I don't know, might be just me having neurosis. What do you think?
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RE: Does anybody else feel threatened by women in a social scenario?
Freakin_Amazin Wrote:
This seems really wierd even to me. But when I am with girls that I don't know (like in public places), or in a place where there are alot of girls I don't know and I'm alone, I feel almost threatened. It's wierd, it's like I have to put this shield over me because I don't trust them, but it doesn't happen with guys (unless it's obvious he hates me or something). I don't feel much fear; it's almost like it's a threat but I can handle it but I don't want to. It's more like anxiety, like I'm in a war zone and there's people out to get me. I try not to look around, just mind my own business. It's not a pleasant experience, but one that I have gotten used to because it happens so much.
I don't know, might be just me having neurosis. What do you think?
I am a woman and I feel threatened by other women. Common scenarios which happen in the presence of other women: -they will ask nasty and too personal questions right away. "What are you doing here? Are you married?" -such questions are the sign that they feel that I am competition, hence the "are you single, married?" question -then when I am in the middle of a conversation with a guy, they jump in and try to hijack our current conversation Guy: yeah, so I love tennis Me: I have recently started playing tennis once again... The other girl: OMG!!!! (flips hair) You play tennis! (to the guy, ignoring my presence) WE must play this weekend!!!! -or they will say something totally man hating in a man's presence (leaves me embrassed, pondering what the men think afterwards) -or they act so needy and clingy that men verbally signal that they do not want them (also embrassing)
On Sunday I went to this classy design fair, and being dumb, asked a female to come along with me. At one stand, there was this really nice and good looking guy who tried to start up a conversation with us. She in return, totally insulted him out of the blue. That totally ruined my chances of getting to know him.
This post was last modified: 07-08-2008 11:24 AM by ClosetGeek.
RE: Does anybody else feel threatened by women in a social scenario?
Freakin_Amazin Wrote:
This seems really wierd even to me. But when I am with girls that I don't know (like in public places), or in a place where there are alot of girls I don't know and I'm alone, I feel almost threatened. It's wierd, it's like I have to put this shield over me because I don't trust them, but it doesn't happen with guys (unless it's obvious he hates me or something). I don't feel much fear; it's almost like it's a threat but I can handle it but I don't want to. It's more like anxiety, like I'm in a war zone and there's people out to get me. I try not to look around, just mind my own business. It's not a pleasant experience, but one that I have gotten used to because it happens so much.
I don't know, might be just me having neurosis. What do you think?
i get that sometimes. if i go eat by myself at a restaruant, and the place is full of couples, sometimes i feel "threatened" or intimidated. i feel like everyone's watching me... when i was in high school i went to a restaruant alone to eat by myself, someone (who was with a group) went up to me and asked if i was gay and why was i eating by myself with headphones on....... i think that was what really created this fear of mine. but i realized now that it doesnt mean fuckin shit if you are alone, still, i wish i was with someone in a public place sometimes.
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RE: Does anybody else feel threatened by women in a social scenario?
i feel threatened any time some one is behind me. if its not a buisy place and they're walking the same way i am behind me i slow down tell they pass me or i start to jog and get a good distance between us. i cant stand it when people are be hind me watching me and i cant see what theyre doing.
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This post was last modified: 07-08-2008 12:36 PM by Outlawstarl337.
RE: Does anybody else feel threatened by women in a social scenario?
It kind of feels like 70% of the women in a public place that I happen to be in seem to start thinking defensively like I'm going to try to have sex with them or I'm a pickup artist and I MUST be denied or that kind of thing. It's like their body language is total disgust for me. It makes me feel really bad and like I can't talk to anyone. And it's not like I'm ugly or screwed up in any way: I'm average looking and atletic (because I lift so much weights). And then I start thinking, maybe it's me; maybe it's all in my head. I really don't know what to make of it.
RE: Does anybody else feel threatened by women in a social scenario?
Freakin_Amazin Wrote:
It kind of feels like 70% of the women in a public place that I happen to be in seem to start thinking defensively like I'm going to try to have sex with them or I'm a pickup artist and I MUST be denied or that kind of thing.
Sometimes i feel that way so i go out of my way to avoid any action that could be misinterpreted and may go out of my way to appear oblivious to any female that may be around. I imagine instead i just come across as cold, aloof and out of touch.
RE: Does anybody else feel threatened by women in a social scenario?
i have been taken for like a decade ( for real, 3 years with highschool love, and 6 years with HER) so trying to flirt is like asking a dog to do a thesis on the ramifacations of eastern policy. its just not happening. im so bad to, i get the "duh-duh-duh--...I-I-I..." know what i mean?
RE: Does anybody else feel threatened by women in a social scenario?
SighX99 Wrote:
...when i was in high school i went to a restaruant alone to eat by myself, someone (who was with a group) went up to me and asked if i was gay and why was i eating by myself with headphones on.......
How fucking rude. People like that make me sick.
I usually like to eat alone because I just don't like talking to anybody while I'm eating. Most of the time I would make the stupidest excuses when I would be invited for a bite to eat out with someone. I know I look like a loser but I could care less.
RE: Does anybody else feel threatened by women in a social scenario?
SighX99 Wrote:
i get that sometimes. if i go eat by myself at a restaruant, and the place is full of couples, sometimes i feel "threatened" or intimidated. i feel like everyone's watching me... when i was in high school i went to a restaruant alone to eat by myself, someone (who was with a group) went up to me and asked if i was gay and why was i eating by myself with headphones on....... i think that was what really created this fear of mine. but i realized now that it doesnt mean fuckin shit if you are alone, still, i wish i was with someone in a public place sometimes.
Damn straight, Sigh. I wish I had a nickle for every time I went somewhere alone. I go by myself to the movies and anywhere else I want too. : )
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