After I meet a guy, I always get this notion that there are other women he is interested in too. After I meet him, he wants to meet up....here and there....and a couple of weeks or a month later,
I find out he has a Anna, Nicole, Silvia or Janet (insert generic name here) with whom he "likes" to hang around with. He of course asks me out and I say no cause I feel like I am on some game show and I am one of the candidates on that show. lol.
And this Anna, Nicole or Janet etc are not his "friends".
Does this happen to other females in this forum?
Does this happen to the guys in this forum? I mean do you find yourself....meeting girls who have a portfolio of guys?

Yeah yeah...i know this girl once, who had like this whole list of guys....and each day, she would like tell us...."dang...so many guys to choose from...such a headache" which i think is quite erm....being a jerk.

yes, i know this feeling. i don't think those men and woman should feel good about juggling people like that either...

I do not waste my time with such folks.

It's that simple.

Yeah, I agree Unacceptance.

It seems like some people just seem to attract that type for whatever reason.

No...I've never been out on a date with a guy before

yeah, i guess it feels like your on a job invertview or some jargen.
The only problem is ...sometimes i kept hearing about Johny Brokmyheart, Greg Jerkoff, and Jimmy Notbigenough on the first date.lol And of course Howbig Isur Bnkacount....this dude gets around alot apperantly.lmao

This post was last modified: 10-13-2008 02:51 AM by Lonesome Crow.

No...I've never been out on a date with a guy before

yeah, i guess it feels like your on a job invertview or some jargen.
The only problem is ...sometimes i kept hearing about Johny Brokmyheart, Greg Jerkoff, and Jimmy Notbigenough on the first date.lol And of course Howbig Isur Bnkacount....this dude gets around alot apperantly.lmao

LMAO LMAO!!!

I've had this issue too, best thing to do is get away from this situation.

These are the kinds of people that like to play games and this is getting excessively common with the younger generations.

CG here is my opinion and it is only an opinion.

This, in my opinion, is normal and it's ok. Remember the song that went "...my mama told me, ya better shop around?" To me it's good if a man is shopping around. They, like us, need to make sure that the one they end up with is the one they want. Besides no one can expect a person to date just one person in the beginning of a relationship. Mainly because they haven't gotten to know that person to decide if thats what they want.

He of course asks me out and I say no cause I feel like I am on some game show and I am one of the candidates on that show. lol.

How will you two ever know if you are for each other? Dating is a way to get to know someone.

Everyone of us is very different and unique and we carry within ourselves (ok, here is where it gets weird for ya) a certain light. People are drawn to us by who we are- our uniqueness- our light, if you will. It takes time to see that light. So it doesn't matter if a man dates 100 women, if you are the one for him, he will eventually recognize that. Infact, his dating other woman and experiencing their personalities helps him to see how unique you are. And if he isn't the one for you, that's ok too! It's one more out the way to finding the one for you.

Don't be afraid of "competition" because in my mind there isn't any. The way I look at it is this: Any woman who can take my man, can have him! There isn't any competition because there isn't a woman in the world who is like me or has my heart or personality. The same is true for you. What we do is refine that light. Become better people and grow as individuals. We work on our "shit" and we learn from our lessons. The guy finding us is the easy part

Soooo, don't let a few Anna Nicloles or whoever bother you or the fact that they may be dating the same guy you are. Just know that dating is a process and you have to do a lot of it to find that right one. Try not to take anything personally or seriously.

Remember, there is someone who is also looking for you! Someone who will think you are perfect for them While there will always be a faster gun (better looking, more accomplished men and women, whatever) There will never be another you.

This post was last modified: 10-15-2008 02:43 AM by Naleena.

I am glad that there are others out there who feel the same as me. I get so fed up with the dating game. It feels like another job at times. Trying to keep up with what all men want. I am so tired of having to play the game. I want someone who wants me for me, not what they want me to be, their play toy.