Guess I am not old yet I am still pretty young really I am only 22 but I figure by around age 25 or so I should be successful enough to atleast get a gold digger or something by then I should have every done and be working as a pharmacist.

Josh! You made me laugh with that gold digger comment. You seem to be quite the chivalrous gentleman--I think you can find someone who will like you for being YOU. The fact that you will be a pharmacist with a steady income and reliable job will be the icing on the cake!

Mo one can predict such future outcomes, and only Josh can prioritize for himself.

Hi Josh,
I believe that you deserve more than a golddigger: you're still young, and I think you're also a good person. I know some golddiggers, they are really squalid in my opinion. I think we don't need an arm candy: leave them all to old farts and dumb rich lads

I do not consider the question of deserving. I only wish the best. Though I so share keeper's implicit preference. Personally I find sex industry repugnant and destructive. Though, to be fair, ours are not the only values or priorities. As the saying goes, the difference in sex for free is that ultimately, it costs more. We only cling to the cherished hope that it will all be worth the while. And, again, to be fair, even gold-digger's are feeling people too, and vary in character as do we all. Why, some have even pretty much declared a code of ethics and values on national television. And any clear hierarchy of values can be a saving grace. Thus, we need not agree with the choices of other consenting individuals in order to acknowledge them with respect. And I, for one, can hardly yet claim sufficient acquaintance with Josh in order to so authoritatively contradict him about how he understands himself or who he might ever choose to become. When we presume to advise Josh, then Josh is the only one who needs to be satisfied.

Of course, AaronAgassi, if Josh prefers a golddigger he's free to get one. I was only expressing my opinion, not advising him.
Golddiggers are feeling people and vary in character, I know it's true because I've learnt it by knowing some of them, and I don't share their values. Maybe they find my values ridiculous, and I find their values squalid, that's why I wouldn't get along with a golddigger - besides I have no gold in my pockets, so...

Indeed we may stand with the ridiculous, and apart from the squalid, keeper. But yes, eventually, it always comes to the bottom line! So which will you choose to be, Josh, squalid or ridiculous? Which do you bear (or bare) more bravely?

I think that it's not just a choice in life between ridiculous and squalid!

There aren't just two types of women in life, anymore than there are just two types of men.

We're all human. Gold diggers have feelings, too! I find gold digging only to be disgusting when it's done under pretense and lies.

If a girl is very upfront with her man that she loves him for his money and social prestige, and he still wants her, then it's a fair 'deal.' I, personally, have never been a gold digger. If I loved someone I would love them regardless of income. At the same point, there comes a time when a man with a reliable job (whether prestigious or not) becomes more attractive to a woman. Namely, her nesting phase of ages 25 and up, when she is looking for a husband to mate with.

LOL!

Squalor can be ridiculous too!

You cannot serve two masters, love and mammon.

Women need equal economic opportunity for sexual freedom in order to follow their hearts.

I can't really understand where does this conflict squalid/ridiculous comes from. I've used the two terms not to describe two categories of persons among which one has to choose: I've used "squalid" to refer to my personal opinion about some golddiggers; and "ridiculous" to describe a hypothetical judgement of my values coming from a golddigger.