I just don't ever see this happening haven't had one ever and don't think will ever be able to. It is so damn frustrating to because people act like it is such a simple thing maybe to them it is but it isn't to me. Some people know how to do things like that others just don't. I have tried to get some people I know to help me with it but they just are generaly assholes that try to say how its just so simple and I say it isn't to me and then it usally turns into me getting into a agurment. Anymore when people just tell me I just have to do it or its easy I tell them well why can't you prepare a TPN solution or repeat then entire periodic table thats easy atleast to me it is.

Well sorry guess a rant there just really fucking pissed off anymore.

Hi Josh,
I am in the same situation as you, but I think that asking someone to help us is completely pointless unless they know your personality. I don't ask people "How can I get a gf?" because they don't know how I can get one. They only know how they can get one and don't know how you could. I think that if we really will meet a person we wish to be our gf we will succeed - at least we will try.

Hmm. Well, I'm trying to avoid posting so much that I scare off others!

But, I cannot resist. I am quite the love coach.

Please, give me a try! I've fixed up my sister once and my best friend once--and that ended up in a marriage!

What type of woman are you looking for? Let me guess...a Barbie doll with a Ph.D.? (j/k)

I think part of it is being sure you make yourself as attractive as you can be, not just physically, but emotionally and even spiritually. Negative energy tends to frighten people away. And DO NOT look at porno if that causes you to think that every womans' body will be free of stretch marks, cellulite, flab, scars, etc. Ever heard of 'airbrushing'?

:-)

Very intresting point keeper I guess maybe I should be too upset with people that have tried to help me out and just seem to give me really dumb advice.

Hey lonelygirl don't think its scaring anyone off with you posting a lot it good someone here is really social we need that. About me finding a girl probaly does come down to trying to make my self attractive but I am pretty insecure when it comes to that so I tend to almost brag or use to much that I have money and I am pretty smart.

Hi Josh-
I've never had a boyfriend, and I can relate to how frustrated you must be feeling. I never really thought about it that much when I was younger, but now that I've reached the age when most of the people I know are getting married and starting families, it does make it difficult to watch them move on with their lives while I'm left sitting around wondering what it would be like to be kissed, not to mention be in a relationship.

What I have done lately, and which has seemed to help me somewhat, is too try to make the rest of my life as full and rewarding as possible. Maybe I won't have a boyfriend for another 10 or 20 years, or maybe I never will. It's always going to bug me a little bit; there's no way to completely stop wanting a relationship like that. But, I've found that if I can get everything else (or close to it) in my life to go well and if I fill up my time with people and things that I actually care about, it makes dealing with the lack of a partner easier. In some respects, it's a waiting game, except you don't know if you'll ever get to stop waiting.

Well, I suppose that won't help you find a girlfriend, but maybe it'll help you get along until you meet someone special.

Hi LG,
I will give you a try!
I'm not looking for any Barbie, either with or without a PhD. Actually, I've learnt that choosing a good looking woman as gf isn't so wise. LOL
I agree with you, it's me who should make myself as attractive as I can be. But I know where the problem is: I'm very unsure because of my physical and emotional conditions.
I don't really care about physical perfection. I don't like those women who think they must be perfect - they seem to me very superficial.

Well, Keeper and Josh...

I always WANTED to be a Barbie with a Ph.D. Well, I know realize, at age 31, that I will probably never be a Barbie. (Without major plastic surgery, anyway!)

The Ph.D. is still a possibility. Hopefully, within 5 years.

The PhD thing is a bit funny to me actually. A lot of the single women in my PhD program worry that it will be even harder to find someone after the finish grad school. Statistically speaking, most men marry women with an equal or lower levels of education, so some women worry that once they get their PhD they'll be unattractive to a lot of men who don't have higher degrees. Of course, it doesn't stop any of us from actually pursuing our doctorate, and personally I think that if a man is bothered by a woman having more education than he does, he probably isn't worth it to begin with.

Anyway, I just thought that was an interesting counterpoint to lonelygirl's suggestion that men might want a woman with a PhD.

Elaea,

I'm already married, lol. I met my husband when I had a Master's degree and he was still working on his Bachelor's degree. I'm trying to get him to go for his Master's but it's like pulling teeth.

Real men aren't worried if the woman is more educated than they are. And, if they are, would you really want them? Statistics, SCHMATISTICS
lol Who cares, go for your dream!

Josh, I can definitely relate to you. Please read my thread in the new members forum: "I'm extremely lonely and I need help." Please know that you're not alone. We look around and see all those jerks having romantic relationships while we are treated as if we don't exist when in fact we do have a lot to offer. I know, it can be heart wrenching. Please hold your head up and stay strong. You have lots of support here.

Me personally, it doesn't bother me if a woman is more educated than I am since I am a strong believer in merit and I am quite self assured. Actually I find it quite attractive when a woman is very educated, even more than myself. A lot of men seem threatened by these things. Those men are probably insecure, lack confidence , and have very low self esteem and probably cannot handle a woman of that calibre. Ironically, it seems to be those same type of "men" who are successful with women who are less educated or have the same level of education as themselves because of their so-called "confidence." This is all so contradictory and seems to be a mystery to me.