One of my bigger fears is that I'll someday have to drastically lower my expectations of people out of desperation. That's when I'll know I have hit the bottom of social loneliness I think...

I kinda feel like maybe one's expectations can be too high (perhaps having been influenced by their life in general) but then I also think that people tend to know what they want, and maybe that's the real key to happiness, never settleing for less...

I dunno, I'm kinda of the mind that that's how most people become lonely. By simply wanting more than is available to them... but who knows lol

Not always, when I was in school, I was around people that I would like to spend time with, but they didn't seem too eager to accept me into their company. There is also a girl that lives in the building next to me (I used to go to school with her), sometimes I see her outside and say "hi". I kinda have a crush on her. But I have no idea how to enter her circle of friends. #_#

This girl isn't "hot" or "popular" anything, just a normal girl, she is shy and a nice person... she used to be really self-conscious in school, but she seems to be a bit better now. I would like to become her friend, but I don't know how. I can't think of anything to talk about with her.

I don't think that my expectations are high.
I just want to be with a person who

- is kind
too many people are cruel... especially people who are cruel to the sick, the poor, and animals. I'm sorry, byt I can't force myself to be friends with someone who calls a homeless person a "worthless loser". Cruelty naturally repulses me.

- ISN'T INVOLVED IN CRIME
is this too much to ask? the place where I live is full of criminals, pimps, and prostitutes -_-

- shares some of my interests
like manga, anime, videogames... so that we have something to talk about. Natural, ne?

This post was last modified: 11-14-2007 01:42 AM by mimizu.

To a certain degree I would and do. But I do draw a line at hanging with some ppl

Basically I would not go out with a girl I didn't feel that much for just cos I feel lonely. I can understand why ppl do this. I just cent.

Friends is different. I do go out with ppl sometimes for a drink just so I get out the house. Just lately Ive not needed to do that but have and probably still would.

same here,,i cant go out with a guy if there isn't a little something there,,it might be that he is georgous,,,though i have never went out with one of those,,,, or it could be that he is smart and funny,,,i mean i don't understand them girls that will go out with a guy for the money damn if the guy is not interesting well he wont get my vote,,,,i don't care about the money,,,,ermm maybe thats why i am broke as hell too:o

I wouldn't be able to 'hang' out with them, however I wish I could! Maybe I could meet other people when I was hanging out. But I always chose the safe road and hang out alone.

Every time I've lowered my standards I have met with disappointment. My ex-roommate is a good example. I ALWAYS thought he was a shiftless leech, but my other (female) roommates had a crush on him and we needed to fill the empty room. Even when he stopped paying the rent and confided really humiliating things about them to mutual friends, they would find excuses for him. Not me. I kicked him out...and lost a lot of "friends" as a result. I am lonely, but there is a certain cold comfort in having self respect, and I wouldn't give that up for anything. I know better now. And no one else should have to settle, either!

oh goodness I've done that for the last 2 years! lol ok maybe not like to the extream but the only reason I wouldn't hang out with someone is if I didn't agree with their values, like if they beat animals for amusment...but I find that I can get at least something even out of the most boring people, or people that I have nothing in common with, sometimes its just fun to figure out why a person is the way that they are, and getting to know people is always interesting at least.[/i]

no. that's my case and i guess i should be less choosy

(im new)I have done that at least twice can I remember and normally its just because Im to afraid, and dont know how to follow through without being uncomfortable. because its so unfamiliar, on top of that I dislike drinking alcohol, smoking, and well drugs of any form. Which pretty much makes the entire party scene terrifying for me. I have one friend who never leaves his house ever, so when I get out of school I visit him and sometimes on the weekends. But trying to make friends hasnt gone well out of school, because I just dont know how to take the small amount of friendships I had out of school. Pretty much one to two people I have met in my 3 years in college. One got pregnant so I lost touch with her. And well I just didnt know how to talk to the phone with the other one and a part of me didnt want to, because looks, even though we had things in common, I still felt like i would be disappointed in the end.

Why dose your friend not leave the house and I know what you mean about making convo on the phone. Sometimes can be difficult to do that I know. Good thing you stay away from drugs, smoke and drink tho. You should be proud of that. One day ppl, decent ppl well respect you for that. Just I know at college all the world seams to be doing them things. It dose show your ye own person tho. Good on ye I say, Oh and welcome to our little home

This post was last modified: 12-12-2007 09:23 PM by Bluey.