ya i only have like 2 friends right now, and one friend i talk to on the phone a fair amount, which i've never had afriend that would call me up just to chat. But sometimes it just feels like my time is getting wasted like she'll call when i'm working on ho,ework and i'll hav to put it off, and a lot of times we don't talk about anything very intersting. but she's the only friend that i have to consider close, and i don't want to ever blow any one else or not talk to them becuase i know how much that hurts and i wouldn't ever want to do that to some one else.

Totally know what you mean cos I go through the same thing too. Well sometimes I'd feel kinda bad to put them off or say that I couldn't talk to them. But if it's really urgent for me to get something done and someone calls, I'd usually tell them that I'd get back to them. If not? Lol I could spend hours just hearing someone talk about what they wanna talk about. Oh that has happened many times before lol..

Why not? It's not like you're going to marry the person. Just enjoy that person's company, and the fact that he/she wants to spend time with you.

The only type of people I choose not to spend time with are those with negative or passive attitudes. I can stand people who put others down constantly, or complain continuously about their situation but do nothing to change it. I believe if a person is unhappy about something, then he/she should do something about it. Whining about it won't fix anything, and putting others down is a pathetic way of running from your problems.

I dont really see to many ugly people in this world to be honest.
I guess my sense of beauty is a little different than most everyone else.
Maybe its because most of the "attractive" people are hollow.
I want someone I can share myself with and that would love me as much as I would love them.

i wouldn't say im "choosy" but "selective." if im not feeling it, i wont continue it. i try to give people the benefit of the doubt but sometimes you can't try and create something that isn't there. why deal with the headache? ive hung out with people who just don't click with me and each time, im thinking to myself "i just wanna go home." i have a few friends but all except one live pretty far away. it just sucks because when i meet someone and hang out with them and they're loud, or obnoxious, or we clash on certain things, i feel like ive wasted my efforts and it'll be a long time before i have another chance to make a decent friend. i have social anxiety and it's pretty hard for me to talk to new people so when i actually do, i have pretty high hopes for it. when it doesn't work out, i feel kinda crushed.

most of them are. having been homeless, i can say that in all honesty.

Absolutely not

Sound like a total nerd!

LOL so funny! Seriously he right though, jean are nice

Forgive me...but you could always show him your DD

Are you talking about me?

I think I'm rather choosy. The people I work with say I am anyway. They always run through lists of women on dating sites or at the place I work, and I always manage to come up with the reasons for not wanting to get to know them...some of them rather silly reasons.

I think I tend to look for friends who are like me. I start to avoid people who don't have a similar personality, similar background, similar interests, similar intelligence, similar (lack of) social life. I guess I feel intimidated by anyone who I perceive as better or more outgoing. Its somewhat ridiculous but that's how my mind works at present.

i am insanely choosy. maybe we're lonely because we're too choosy? i dont know.

i always say that i'd rather have NO friends, than bad friends.

I've done this. Hanging out with people only because they're the only ones who'll take you. I hung out with this group last year like that. I'm sorry to say I found them totally uninteresting. Or maybe it was 'cause they didn't talk to me. I was friends with two girls in the group who always invited me to sit with them. I'd go because I didn't want to be rude and because I had nowhere else to go. Thing is, once we got there, they'd always talk to other people. I'm not good at talking in groups. I do one-on-one conversations. They'd be so into the conversation and I'd just sit there. I hated it. The other girls never spoke to me. I felt like they were thinking "what's she doing here?" Because our lunchtime is so long, I didn't want to hang around for the extent of it. I'd try to leave as soon as I finished my lunch (to the computer room). It was so awkward, they were all talking and I was sitting on the end. I didn't know whether to just get up and walk away or to say 'bye' to everyone. I speak quite softly, and I'm told I mumble. So they probably wouldn't have heard me anyway. Anyway, I got invited to a birthday party. Not much different. I sat and spoke to this girl who was the birthday girl's friend from her old school. She didn't know anyone either. If she wasn't there, who knows what I would've done? Anyway, I had 'a group' to work with. But it was just uncomfortable. I wasn't that eager to get to know any of them. I've found a new group since then. I like these ones because I find them interesting and they actually say hi to me when I sit down.

In response to the question, I think it's better to find people you click with than to try and force it. It's just... uncomfortable. And even if you do get it smoother, it's not even with someone you really care to know. Why bother?

This post was last modified: 04-19-2008 02:06 AM by Einsam.