I often worry about people not liking me evn here, sometimes i hold back posting something because I'm afriad of being judged badly for it.

I also hate that I want to help comfort people if they have a sad post or something, but my words feel dry and I never know how to word them any better. i wish i could sound so inspiring and poetic as others.

And don't worry Qui I've always thought very highly of you, i've found comfort of knowing someone here thats the same age


I'm so fond of everyone here, and I always worry about sounding dwebish too. It's a major part of my pysche that i just can never seem to throw off no matter how hard I try.

This post was last modified: 01-28-2008 03:29 PM by evanescencefan91.

Qui! We are almost of the same age (I think I'm older?) but yet I really think you speak well enough to sound like an adult. Your posts are always thoughtful to me and I've always thought that you speak so much better than I do..and also in terms of expressing yourself. You totally don't sound like a kid, and you totally fit in well here, that's what I think

HAY!!! I know where your coming from. Don't worry about it. There is other ppl here that feel the same way.

When I fist got the net not even 2 years ago I didn't even know how to tern a PC on. One of the fist things I found was a forum I wonted to post on. I did not know how to check my spelling and let me tell you I have pretty bad spelling. In the end I posted anyway. I did get some ppl taking the you know what. But I had a go back at them cos I do enjoy a bit of a well argument sometimes (not on here) This is just not the right place for it. Anyway they where saying things like "what are you on about." "I have no clue what you just said" But I keep posting and eventually lernt how to use spell check and the spelling has got a bit better. And so has my confidence. Know I just think as long as ppl can understand me who cares what ppl think. The decent ppl well be friends and that's all that counts.

That's my story told the short way in why I was to shy to post ppl here would probably be surprised that not even two years ago I would have been to skerd to make one single post on a forum. (what can I say , am a fast lerner ) Don't be shy on here. The only ppl that well judge you on here is the trolls and they do that to everyone. But we have got rid of them for know

I stopped worrying about this, but I admit it was a concern of mine when I first started posting here.

I'm sure there are people that find me strange, boring, perverse or whatever, but I refuse to let that get in the way of sharing my thoughts. I'd rather be hated for who I am than liked by everyone for being a phony.

At the end of the day, all we can be are ourselves.

yea, me too.

they never feel dry.

Hmmmm what to say, what to say.

Well if anyone does say something to far out of line trust that I will get out my club and let you have it. *evil grin*

That said, most people are so far away from that line I can't even see you......... *Peers around standing all by himself by the line with club in hand*

How will anyone even know who you are if your to afraid to say?

Most things people say aren't something that can per say be liked or disliked. It simply is. Most things are not right, wrong, or otherwise. They simply are a detail. Though there are always those who will pick at details. Mostly though they are just looking for those who are timid and some sort of excuse to act on being hostile. It's not about what is said, but how it is said and that that puts you out there as an easy target.

I always think it makes it easier to say things when people see someone else going first.

I think most people have all kinds of ideas. Most they don't act on. Just because someone thinks one thing or another doesn't really mean anything at all. It's sort of like hating your TV set just because the current show on at the moment sucks. So you just change the channel if you can or do something else for a while. Of course if you can't communicate with others then you will feel even more weird and isolated and believe your the only one who had that thought or idea. The really amazing thing about people is the sky is the limit. What ever a person can think of really is the possibility. I say screw the social norms. They aren't the norm anyways. People are weird. The world is weird. There are just a few groups out there that try to fit everyone into a tiny box and put a nice pretty ribbon on top. They tend to be some of the scariest people in this world. As long as you’re trying to be constructive and not out to hurt anyone then it just doesn't really matter. I don't think anyone can be summed up in a few words or a paragraph even. To assume that a few words that you say sums you up or even how people view you just isn't right. Especially since a person can say something and agree with it at the time. Then a few days later or even hours later decide they don't even agree with what they thought or said at that time. I don't know of anyone that doesn't have that happen now and then.

I also think that often it's not about what is wanted to be said, but that people just feel fear in general. Just admitting to that fear can show a great deal of courage.

This post was last modified: 01-31-2008 11:46 AM by Skorian.

My advice is to say whatever you want, and don't let any of us judge you. Your thoughts and your words are sacred, and while I may not agree, you have every right to express them.

Concisely yours,
IO

I kinda feel this way. Sometimes my friends invite me into a chat and I don't really say anything because I don't really know anyone there and don't want to make the wrong impression

I hate feeling like I have nothing to add to a conversation, but there's an awkward silence where I feel preassured to say something. What can I do when I have nothing to say?

I would either just keep quiet and look dumb (lol), keep quiet and look deep in thought, or just say "I don't know what to say" lol. Usually it's the first one..sigh..