Anyone weird like me and feel shy, even on a forum?--like someone won't like what I write, judge me because of my age, my tastes, my words, my pathetic attempts at profoundness? I substitute the word school with class, teacher with professor, just so I sound a bit older--it's absolutely idiotic. I read almost everything but I don't reply often because I'm shy--I don't know how to say anything right.

Logic tells me no one cares about me enough to even judge: people are too worried about themselves to go out of their way to condemn me, but it always feels like there are eyes watching every move I make, waiting for me to make a slight blunder.

In person, I can almost cover up my shyness, but it simply turns into aloofness, and it's as if people think that I think I'm too good for them, but I'm not worthy of much of anything.

It's ridiculous. Even on the anonymous internet, I can't be myself; I'm so self-conscious. If I were brave I could be myself, but then I wouldn't really know who to be.

Well, sometimes I want to make a post, but I can't think of anything worthwhile to say, and thus don't post at all; though I suppose that's different...

Yell and scream if you like. Just don't attack anyone.

This post was last modified: 01-27-2008 02:28 PM by Skorian.

Hey sabishiinaa, I understand what you're saying. Perhaps it could help you in physical life to overcome the shyness by starting to overcome it here. Who knows? But yes, I believe you have more positive things to say than to attack anyone so go ahead and say what you think or want. I know it may be hard at times to say something but I don't know, start small I guess?

I feel like Matt too most times lol. Can't think of anything worthwhile to say so I don't say much.

Well when I first joined this forum I was more hesitant rather than being shy because there was a quite a bit of flaming going on at the time, and I really didn't want to get caught up in any of it. But as time has gone on I have become quite comfortable when I post anything.

I feel like this too sometimes

There are some people who are outspoken in forums, and they get heard the most. I find that if you say something that's a little off some people might get offended and start to dislike you, which is why I shy away from writing sometimes, even though I'm just being honest. I would say don't be afraid to defend your position if someone tries to attack you, cause you deserve to be here as much as everyone else.

I know there is no perfect thing I can say to make anyone less concerned with what other's think of them. Just remind yourself that you can't read other peoples minds. Don't alientate yourself by being convinced that what you have to say isn't of value. Don't be concerned with saying something that has to be perfect and totally without flaw. There is no such thing anyways. It's a concept based upon your expectations that is something created, it's not an absolute, it's not universal. Oppinion's are just oppinions and it's ok to have your own oppinion. Most people won't dislike others based upon saying 1 wrong thing or 2 wrong things, even 100 wrong things. Some people are judgemental, but many people are not. The first step I would recommend is to try to not be judgemental yourself. We tend to fear from other's what we ourselves do. If we are judgemental, then we fear being judged. If we reject others, then we fear rejection ourselves. Often people reject others because of the fear of being rejected. It doesn't even mean they dislike you, but rather are just afraid. Being angry at others often comes back as anger at ourselves. It tends to be that we see the world as a mirror of ourselves. What we think about we then see in others. All you can really do is to treat other's as you want to be treated. I think in most cases all it really comes down to is fear of rejection. Only how will you ever even be rejected if you don't take the risk to find out? How will you ever prove your fear wrong? You might find that what you think is just the same as the next guy. It isn't so strange at all. It's a weird world we live in. People screw up, accept it. Maybe what you should all talk about is what you are all afraid will happen if you speak your mind.

I think it's a good step just to admit being scared even of posting on a forum.

This post was last modified: 01-28-2008 08:21 AM by Skorian.

I understand what you mean. I used to feel like a little kid wandered into an adult conversation almost every time I posted here. I said some really stupid things, and gave dumb and obvious advice to people who were in situations far beyond what a kid like me could comprehend. And then when I'm feeling self destructive and juvenile I go on long rants saying things like, oh I'm going to go cut myself, la de da. I have to go back and edit out my posts the next day, but of course the damage has been done, people think of me as a little attention whore and that's the last thing I want. I almost left the forum because I felt like I was too young to ever fit in, but now it's not so bad, I just steer clear of the really adult issues and try to help out as best I can with people who are having problems that I do understand. Anyway, that would be my advice, just reply to things you understand, and don't worry too much about what you don't.
And just to throw this out there, this forum is a lot more accepting and understanding than really any other I've been to. Anyone who is mean here is that way because they are in pain, if you're nice they usually come around and are nice in return.

Yes, everyone deserves to be here and to be heard.

Yes, it's a good step to start with.

I've never thought this of you Qui... so just goes to show that, despite what you think, others may perceive things differently than you do sabishiinaa. We are our own greatest critics.