Okay so I lost one of my friends a while back ill state granted she wasnt a very good friend from the get go. But how do you know if your dating or not because I thought back on it and I wonder if thats why she was doing somethings that I thought a friend shouldnt do. Well when I called her she never called back. We only ever went out alone together, and I tended to pay for dinners. But we never kissed but she didnt offer to have sex once(literally the day before I lost my virginity). I thought we were just friends but I don tknow never calling after like 2 years of friendships seems fucked up. Anyway could use some experience so if I end up in something like this again I dont miss an opprotunity.

she offered to have sex with you? Lol, she liked you! Why didnt you just call her ..during the two years.. guess it was because she wasnt a great friend. She liked you.. if she offered sex.. girls dont just do that EVER!

Well I actually didnt lose touch with her on purpose, it just became to much of a pain to always to be the one to call felt like I wasnt getting anything out of it if one call back over a three year friendship was impossible. But I figure she did a bit and I did a bit but it was just a pain. Not knowing why acting nice wasnt getting me a friend I wanted.

ummm.. i'm not sure how to respond. Maybe you could ask her if in her opinion you'll dated...

Oh I got rid of all her personal information so I didnt have to deal with thinking about her anymore. Unfornately it didnt help I still do but meh to it all I have pretty much moved on. And I was never to torn up over it.

Here's my philosphy and you can take it or leave it: they're all friends till you get married.

Well the thing was I was trying to just be a friend, which was either the problem or not. Well you have raised my curiosity, are you saying your philosophy counts as what I would consider a player, meaning you sleep with your friends, etc. Or is that you dont date do anything physical before marriage or what. I dont know elaborate and if this was just a joke it went over my head do to analyisis

The words player and promiscious are gender specific. The first is usually used for men and the second for women, both of which I dislike. I don't believe in the moralization or demoralization of sex or intimacy. Basically what two consenting adults do together is their business.

When I said "they're all friends till you get married" is just my belief. It means I don't date exclusively and to me they are friends. Marriage is entirely different story. It's something far more serious and committed. But again, this is just my philosophy.

How will you get married if you never date exclusively?

it could work. actually, I think that doing it that way you'd be much more likely to end up with the right person. but then again, I just got through a complete joke of a relationship that totally sucked and in the process I have lost a friend, which is not so good because I don't have too many to spare :/