2.5 years roughly.
Although, my mind is completely deteriorating and I don't even really think about relationships anymore. I mean, sure it would be great to have one, but only if I liked the other person and wasn't ashamed of my very existence.
Which are two highly unlikely circumstances.

I've kind of just accepted that I'm in no psychological state for a relationship or even just for intimacy. It would probably just make me hate myself even more.

around 2.5--3 also

man being single sux......

lol i broke up last year, september, i think. Not sure. I needed my mom to "rescue" me cause the guy was evil (really) and all that situation drove me to the situation i am now. Depressed again lol
Im going to read all posts now :]

but in a way its freedom also

but in a way its freedom also
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Idk... I think i like to be in love and have someone in love by me. Sometimes we are married or engaged and still lonely. Its like being single and having a roommate.

That can be true. And in a way I can imagine that to feel lonely why engaged or marred is weirs then feeling lonely why your single. At least its moor obverse to us that are single why where felling like this.

But I do totally agree with Kristen that your moor free when single. I like that part of being single I must admit that

your moor free when single. I like that part of being single I must admit that

yea...me too

Since day 1. If we say not including the first 18 years then that makes it 10 years but in any case I have never had a close relationship. Most of the time I like my freedom and like my own space but sometimes I think about it too much. If I see a couple smooching on the bus it just leaves me cold, a haunting, hollowness that dies away only after a few hours.

Then I find out about my work colleagues who have been in relationships for a long time and are breaking up - financial upheaval, having to go back to live with their parents...

Then I realise why I've stayed single. I can't afford to lose my home.

I deeply disliked being single and was so for most of my life.

As of late, however, I have been in a relationship that often makes me quite happy. Its not perfect - she is significantly younger than I am, for one thing, but in spite of all the difficulties, I find that it is very fulfilling and completing.

Ultimately, all relationships just really need the fundamentals of trust and communication to them. Quarrels and fighting aren't necessarily bad signs, especially if they're over legitimate differences, as they can lead to better understanding.

I also think that one of the partners needs to be dominant and be able to have the last word. Having some sort of a firm direction is a very good thing, and while its incredibly important that both partners respect each other, I find that both I and the girl have come to appreciate how irrational or uncertain she is feeling, I can make a good decision for the both of us.

Regards,
IO

PS: As others have mentioned, it is a major responsibility - at the very least taking up as much time as an additional evening job.

This post was last modified: 03-21-2008 08:43 AM by IgnoredOne.