I feel like I get used a lot by my friends. I'm not sure if this is all in my head or what... But I want an opinion. I'll go on to explain why I feel this way.

Specifically I feel like this when there is more then one person with me. Everything is fine and dandy when there is just one friend around me, but I feel awkward and/or used when there is more then one.

To start, two of my friends like each other. They are a guy and a girl, they aren't dating yet. Keep in mind that I am the guy with the car, and these guys don't see each other much outside of school. So rarely do they get much privacy. I feel really weird around them because I feel like I am getting in the way of the time they could be together. I have talked to the girl about this and she says she would rather have me with them... But I get a feeling that this isn't true in a way.

That same guy friend doesn't know many of my other friends very well and wants to get to know them, so most of the time when he is around my other friends he seems focused on them. We all talk and all that... But they seem focused on each other. My other friends are very close to each other also, and I feel left out.

I don't know what I should do to feel better. I don't feel appreciated for giving people lifts or for my presence when they are around me. The only time I really feel somewhat appreciated is when I am with someone one on one, and even then I don't get many thank yous for what I do for people. I have asked for thank yous before (because I know it will make me feel better) and for them to let me know how they appreciate me before, but they forget to do it.

I normally don't have this problem, but as of late it has really bothered me, especially with my girl and guy friends getting closer, and wanting to go places. The appreciation has always been assumed, no one really showed anything. It's worked out for everyone but me I think.

Is it my problem or their problem? Give me your thoughts please, it has really been bothering me.

Is a three some out of the question ? Since you're doing all the driving around, you might
as will ask. Friends will understand, so you can't really loose. This way they can really
show you thier appriciations. Actions speak louder than words.

This post was last modified: 08-28-2008 04:56 AM by Lonesome Crow.

Some people are happy amongst a group of friends.. others prefer interacting with individuals. There is nothing wrong with either; people are just different.

I would take what they say to be genuine... that they enjoy your company. I've been out with a couple before, and been half of a couple with someone else along. If people want to be alone.. trust me, they will find a way.

As for feeling like you are being taken for granted, that's more of a problem. Are your friends happy to go places you want to go? Or are the invitations mostly their ideas?

We all usually come to an agreement.

Thanks for the advice people

You have a social life? You got me beat.

i know what you mean black cat i fell this way a lot. What i hate is that especially in a group it feels like people on't really listen to me, whenever i start to say something someone always interupts me and it can get really frustrating. I've actually decided that i'm going to start charging gas fees when people beed rides, just becuase i hate feeling like or wondering if thats the only reason why people talk to me, if it's true i might as well get something out of it.

Me too, I have a very small social life, if you don't count the internet anyways. . .

By the way, it should be pretty obvious if they hang out with you that they appreciate you.

Thank you.

I think I am just being weird right now. Thanks for your replies.

Awww Blackcat sending you kisses and hugs.