I seem to make friends easily but I have trouble keeping them. Once again I keep trying to make plans with this girl that I hung out with for a bit but she never has time for me or says something like 'I'll let you know in a bit" Meaning I'm gonna see if I have something better to do first. I dont understand what I'm doing wrong, when I first meet people we seem to hit it off but after a while its like they loose interest. I've realized maybe I share too much too quickly or something I don't know what the problem is. How do I figure out if its me pushing people away?

This post was last modified: 10-05-2008 12:26 AM by sweetviki.

I have the same situation as you.... and it makes me rather sad that everyone treats me like this. And the worse part, you don't know how to solve this problem. Well, I guess, life sucks that is the way it is.

I think its both a mix of you and them.

Some people I hung out with would sometimes expect me to perform or entertain them when all I wanted to do was relax and talk about bs. Never would see it coming too. I would eventually get so irritated with them that they eventually grew a bit of tension towards me since I like to speak my mind and hold no things back.

Every relationship has an expiry date. Don't get so hard on yourself.

-ghasp- an expiry date? D:
yeah i know what you mean, though sweetviki.
my "friends" used to love hanging out with me,
but then recently, they've stopped calling....or
picking up the phone (except for Erin cause she
doesn't have caller ID O-o but the conversations
with her are irritating, because she lets you know
she's bored and doesn't wish to talk with you). I
have actually considered that yes, i'm probably
sharing too much about myself and so then they
get bored of me quite easily.

Also, I'm one of those clingy people. TT__TT
I don't know why I'm so clingy. I guess it's just
that I've lost so many friends and lovers that...
I'm afraid of losing them now, and so I try and
hang out with them as much as possible. I guess
i just can't tell what is too much and what is too
little.

It is often the case that people get busy with their own lives and really don't have time for others. I lost touch with a lot of my friends when I finished high school and again when I graduated from University earlier this year; except that it's not as bad as the time I finished high school thanks to advances in social networking (e.g. facebook).

"I've realized maybe I share too much too quickly or something I don't know what the problem is. How do I figure out if its me pushing people away?"

Wow, Sweetviki, how do you know me so well?! ;-) And do you notice, as I do, that when I supress the urge to "share" and just let others talk/emote, they do it for hours, and there's no reciprocating? Or am I just starved for attention? It seems to get worse, not better, as people around me mature.

man i can tottaly relate man,

i've got more aquantances than i can count, but i can count the number of good friends i've had on one hand.

it seems that so many other people have tons of friends and aquatiances, that i am merely a spare- to so many people i am a backfriend. leave me in the dusty attic without a clue as to whats going on. Just in case it all doesn't work.

i'm the same damn way, it fucking sucks.

how i let go of the only thing i have left

This post was last modified: 11-11-2008 03:20 PM by evanescencefan91.