It seems my ex wife has discovered I post on here.

I have just spoken to her on the phone and still she won't see me, she has cancelled her cellphone so I can't text, she won't have anything to do with me unless its about the children.

Well I still love you Karen so ignoring me isn't going to help much.

I could be a completely different person to the one I was 18 months ago but you wont give me the chance.

I will always be here in case you change your mind, but on current evidence thats not very likely.

I wish I could move on but I can't. I have never loved anyone else and I never will

Edit:

If anyone here can explain HOW to "move on" from a long term relationship please do, I am all ears. How do you "turn off" the feelings?????

This post was last modified: 06-24-2008 07:37 PM by RobertJW.

I don't think it's ever 'simple' or 'easy' to just turn off our feelings when we've been in a relationship for awhile that doesn't work out. Yet after all the let-downs, the disappointments, and being made to feel like I wasn't good enough, for me anyway, it made it a lot less difficult to numb myself from having feelings for the person. After all, if someone isn't going to make us feel wanted, loved, cherished and that we matter to them, what is the point in torturing ourselves by the "what ifs" and the "if onlys". That may seem like an over-simplified view of things, but life is too damn short for a mountain of regrets and recriminations. Your wife has obviously moved on, and as painful as it is for you, maybe it's time you to just be there for your kids and live your life. Of course this is just my humble opinion.

what a cool thread

yea, Karen, give him a chance....

there is no "how to .." manual to this...I tried

Drinking heavily...unfortunately this just opens the door to new sets of problems.

ye turning of feelings would be a good thing.


Karen if you read this you well know how badly this guy is hurting. and all because hes in love with you. I wish someone was in love with me. Even if you don't wont him I think you should keep talking to him and try and understand where hes coming from with the kids. Your not telling me hes not a good guy? He deserves for you to talk at lest. I mean you do have kids together.

+1


cool avatar....

This post was last modified: 06-25-2008 04:54 AM by Incognita.

Thanks I use it in another place I visit. I don't know why I never thought of using it here be for to day. The idea just hit me from no where lol

Oh, better get back on topic be for we get into trouble. Hold up, am the mod lol OK where all good that was a close one haha

There actually is a way to "turn off" the feelings- I've done it myself. I'll give you the step-by-step version, it's not as easy as swallowing a pill, but it works.

1. Try as much as possible to only focus on the negative things about that person.

2. Associate any negative shit that was going on your life during your relationship with that person as if it was that person's fault or similar to them just because of how that period of your life, including the time you spent with them, sucked.

3. Find someone new. It could either be someone who is legitimately special or a series of random hookups/ dates that mean nothing other than steamy/ casual interaction. Either way, this new person will break connection you have with your last partner and move that partner firmly into the past.

This works like a charm- it doesn't happen overnight, (although the new person hookup might ) but it eventually works if you work at it.

Take it from me: it's worked after girl after girl after girl- and it's still working. I oughta put a patent on the goddamn method, it's so fucking successful.

ok ill try..thanks

well i just got off of a year relationship, its not very long but its awhile
anyways i find its best to hide the things that remind you of that person, just put it in a box somewhere. Then try getting out to town and have a good time, then when you get home you won't constantly see things that remind you of the other person