gotcha. jeez, I take these things too seriously.

Hey. Sarcasm (or satire, for that matter) don't really translate over the interweb so hot, so it's all good. Now find another thread. This one's for perpetually single people. Punk.

I am 21 and I have never had a girlfriend. Personally, I don't think it's such a huge problem at the moment. My belief is that life is all about learning, finding yourself and defining who you are. I feel that I'm still just in the beginning of all this, so I'm certain I will find someone someday.

Now, the real problem is having no friends whatsoever. That really makes things alot harder to cope with.

im 19 and i have many friends who have had either only one or no girlfriends. it's not as weird as you think.

Love will come to you..just be patient.

I'd rather have one real & lasting relationship than 10 crappy ones, kwim?

I don't know if I have reply on here but here goes, so I'm almost 20 and never had a gf either, so your not alone mate!

I hear all of this talk about "waiting" and being "patient". This might be fine for those of you who are barely 20. You've got lots of time.

However, "waiting" and being "patient" could take years...many years. There should be a balance between actively looking for someone and being patient. You can sit around all you like and hope but from what I've discovered, hope doesn't do much for putting someone in my arms. I've had a few girlfriends in the past and not a single one of them just dropped out of the sky into my lap. I had to actually make some sort of effort to get them to notice I existed and was worth the trouble. I suppose if you're rich, famous or look like a male model you don't have to go through the effort, but for those of us who don't live on Fantasy Island it requires a bit more work.

And until such time as I find someone again, I plan to bitch and whine about it. That's just what I enjoy doing. Plus it helps to vent.

This kinda deviates from the topic here but is related...do any of you find that you're not dating anyone because your expectations/attraction factor is really high? Like yesterday, some random girl approached me and started talking. I opened up a little, but I still was pretty reserved. I'm glad to have made a friend, but I wasn't attracted to her even though she was objectively cute. I've never been in a real relationship before (just some unhealthy fake relationships and flings), so I was thinking later on that I was really stupid to put her in the friend zone. But honestly, I couldn't consider her as a girlfriend. What I'm trying to say is, I'm really picky and I don't even have the right to, because the pickings are slim anyway.

Never happened heh.
Regardless, I imagine that my expectations are pretty high, in the sense that I would need to find the person attractive in some way, and i'm very picky in that department.

kel

p.s. first post, hurray

I'm 25 and never had a girl friend so you are not alone mate. When you get near my age then maybe start considering it being a bad thing!