You know I offered to buy a girl a drink when I was 15 at this club disco thing for the under 18's and she said fuck off am not getting off with no spac. You know I was totally gutted. Luckerly my mate totally ripped into her for me. From then on I did not let ppl like that get to me. There just stupid and the kinder ppl that never do anything with there life. You just got to laugh at them and walk away. Do it in a way that makes them look like a fool. There is a knack to it. The only thing I regret is not throwing my drink of cook all over her. I was to gutted at the time. But hay! They well always be ppl like her in this world. You have to learn to deal with them in a way that makes yourself feel good. And the way would not be to have frown your drink over them but you get me.

This post was last modified: 06-08-2008 04:47 PM by Bluey.

Bluey, i dare say it turned out to be a positive experience for you in the end.
good thing you had the courage to ask, usually it's the most difficult step. I know for me it is.

Well...as someone who has been in a relationship, I can tell you that a relationship is not intrinsically good or bad. It's just a situation involving you another a person.

That being said, a lot of relationships are more trouble than they're worth. It's all nice in the beginning when you're one of those cute couples kissing and holding hands but very soon you run into all sorts of problems. And then, even when it's over, if you really felt something for the person, you may be stuck with depression that lasts a long time.

All in all, a relationship is a like having a car. Everybody wants one because it's car. You get in for the first time, freedom in is in the air, and you're speeding down the road in exhiliration. Eventually, the more you drive, bad shit starts to occur: roadkill. traffic. road rage. fender-benders. then, the car gets old, or you crash it- in either case, it becomes an unusable piece of junk that sits in your driveway and takes up space rusting.

that's how many a relatioshp works- it's all great, then things go awry, and then even when it's over, you're stuck with a whole lot of emotional baggage. y'all should be careful what you wish for.

It is for me the most difficult step as well. I was 15 at the time and it was not a positive experience as it was one of the first times I have offered to buy a girl a drink. It took a lot of confidence away from me. When I left school at 16 I did work with a lot of girls and got back all my confidence and a hole lot moor. I did have moor then my fair share of luck with girls back then tell I had to leave that job to go into hospital at 18 and Ive not really had a GF since. So at least I had a good two years lol

But asking should not be difficult. The worst thing that can happen is she says no and you make her feel good cos someone liked her. I mean even if a girl asked you out that you did not like in that way you would still be flattered by it no doubt.

I got my first girlfriend at 18, married my 2nd one at 21, been married to her for 22 years and still don't get any (if you know what I mean). You're still young. don't give up yet.

I can understand that feeling. I just graduated this spring, and 90% of everyone I knew moved off to college already while I'm still here.
So I spend my Friday and Saturday nights alone at home. I can't even go see a movie because I don't want to be seen going alone. The last thing I want is a pitty party, especially since no one really cares about me that much.

So with this new development in my life, I myself have wondered 'who would want to go out with a guy who has no friends and no life?'
This is what keeps me awake at night.

20 and no girlfriend yet. Though, I have some friends who are girls...I should probably be a little more courageous with my wants, especially in this department.

I've had a few girlfriends, but the longest I stayed with one was a little over 3 months.

Thinking about this makes me think that I really never had a true girlfriend in my life. I mean, when things finished, it was like I didn't even exist to them anymore. I don't know how you can like someone and then move on with your life without getting any true closure from someone you spent a lot of time with.

I don't think there is nothing wrong with any of your situations. Just be patient.

Don't EVER act needy, or think she's "the one" right away if you feel so depraved and need a girlfriend BAD. Horrible things happen when you have those type of thoughts in your mind.

You live in a unique situation that should not be looked down upon by anybody.