Heres my status..
Im 23, I dont have my own car, i travel by train, I have a learners licence, I have a casual job,I cant swim, Im short 5 6,I dont have any real friends in here, I cant speak fluent english, Im chubby, I rent a place together with my siblings, I dont have much money, and again Im 23 i dont have a car.. huhuhu.. loser

Hey, same here. Im 22, I don't have a car, I have a learners licence. I am currently a failing undergrad. I am like very short at 1.7m, pale, weak and ugly. I am very skinny with no muscles and I am a hell of bore to talk about...I live with my parents and I am like always borowing money from them...I am the king of all losers. =)

Hi guys,

Really sorry you guys are feeling down about yourselves right now. I'm not going to give you the usual, "you're still young, time to get out there and make something out of yourselves, etc" speech, but I am going to wonder if you're maybe thinking that finding someone will give you the motivation you need to make changes. I want to caution you against this thought. I was once engaged to a guy who was working on his doctorate. He had been actively working on it for about four years when I first met him and a year later, when we were looking at getting married, he was still going slow on the completion phase. He had apparently been in a slump and was wanting to push the marriage date sooner (we were waiting until he finished), because he thought that by having a wife and a kid (I have a child from a previous marriage) that this would be the motivation he needed to finish. We did not rush the marriage. I didn't want to be his motivation, he needed to build that within himself. I also didn't want to risk being the blame if he did not find it in himself to finish. A couple months after this discussion we broke up.

He did eventually finish his work, within the following year, met someone, got married, and has a kid of his own. I don't regret stepping away, and in talking to him since our break up, he understood (at the time he didn't).

What I would suggest is decide what you're wanting, small steps, and be pleased with the small successes you have, which eventually develop into a larger-scale win.

Hi Mister D
Well most of the things you mention here you can make goals of. You don't have to try and achieve everything at once, just one at a time. I don't know where your from, but in Australia we have community houses where you can go and learn English for free. Maybe there is something like that near where you live. Do any of your siblings or anybody that you know swim, maybe they can teach you the basics.
As for a job, you could start to look for full time employment or take a night course at school if you feel you need to further your education.
Gee by the age of 23, I hadn't acheived that much either, I had just finished my apprenticeship, and had an old bomb ford for a car. I don't think your a loser at all, you have pointed out the things you want to do something about and all you need is some motivation to achieve them.

Oh come on you dont have to lie to me to make me feel better.. heres some more, I never finish college, im dumb lots of times, people think im weird, and hey YOU CAN SWIM thats a big thing! you can save people I cant ! and you will be a hero and famous! woohooo cheers sadrabbit save me!

thats really cool, that actually is what im doing now taking small steps and grabbing any opportunities that come by, even as small as a pea and i think if i put them all together i can something out of it.. but sometimes even a small opportunity is hard catch. thankyou

Howdy blue sky, how ya goin? Im from Australia too, and we know australians concentrate on their goals even when theyre young they already know how to drive by the age of 17 and have their own car. No one in my family know how to swim, but its a small thing at the moment. My english i guess in actuality is pretty basic and i can get by with it conversing to people. Its just that... i REALLY Want a car! so i can further myself like getting jobs thats not within train stations, but i dont have any money... my casual job only saves me enough if i try to save i can buy one but prob take me 5 years to get my own used car..I need a plan..fast...and thank u i appreciate u thinking im not a loser at all.

If you have a phobia of water that's one thing. Yet, the first step is to get into a pool. You should do some basic reading on swimming techniques and then get into a shallow pool and try it out. Heck you can even practice the basics with a properly fitted life jacket. You should also try not to get discouraged if you choke on some pool water. Even the best of swimmers chokes on pool water now and then. Make sure while learning that there is someone nearby that can swim just in case you get into trouble. You could seriously be swimming well before the end of this season.

Swimming is something that obviously bothers you, as does being chubby. Why not work on both things at once by learning how to swim and practice as often as you can. It is great exercise.

You can't rely on someone to randomly come up to you and teach you to swim. You must take charge and do it.

Pick a day on a calendar, on this day tell yourself "By the end of the day I will learn how to swim and if I don't learn how to swim I had better drown trying." Since drowning is never really an option, on that day you will learn how to swim.

Mister D...haha... I can't swim, what makes you think I can. I can't swim, I can drive...my grades r in the dumps lol....well thats me ....

Guys, we are not losers! Just because we can't do certain stuff. Everything in our own time. I am 21 and have a license with no car (and really shouldn't have a license). I have never learned how to swin, or ride a bike, and am taking bowling at school and really suck at it. Actually no, I sucked at it, now I am just very horrible. I can't ice skate or roller blade and don't like parties. My grades were bad but I took the initiative to improve them. I like painting, reading, foreign films, dancing, and lonely people. Redefine what greatness and success means too you.