I've been trying to date for over 10 years and I still got nobody to love me. I'm crying as I type this thread, I cry before and after I go to work, I cry because of my failures and years of rejections. I have these visions about my own death in less than 20 years away...not from suicide, not from drugs or alcohol, but from getting so lonely, you get ill. So ill, you can't get out of bed and you're saying your final goodbyes to your family as you lay dying. To make my matters even worse, I decided to give up on love because nobody wants me. They all hate me and want me dead!

i'm in the same boat... so how old are u? male or female? where are u from?

Are you sure everyone hates you? I think it isn't so, unless you start kicking everyone you see!!
Think about it. Good luck.

I'm surprised that you haven't had success in love. I'm sure that there are plenty of people who would love to date you at the very least for your personality, for your heart, or because of shared interests, even if they aren't living in your neighborhood.

To answer your question, I am a male, 23 years old, and now looking for another place to live. I don't like where I live now, because I was so isolated and I live alone.

To answer your question, I am a male, 23 years old, and now looking for another place to live. I don't like where I live now, because I was so isolated and I live alone.

i'm going down the same path u are going... i'm starting to isolate myself again from the world. it's all too painful. the only difference is that i'm 21. the truth about all of this is, personality doesn't matter, it's the looks that counts in this world. sad... but true.

The same thing is going on here. A few months ago I've started to isolate myself - not totally, to say the truth - because of a bad relationship which required a great everyday effort to carry on. When it came to the end it almost left me without any strength cause I gave everything I could. Fortunately I'm still alive and I can grow stronger. I'm no more 21 or 23, but some years older. Anyway I remember how it was when i was in your age and I must confess it wasn't that different to me.
Guest, I think that personality matters but it's only 50% and the rest is look, in my opinion. Maybe only power and wealth might compensate look - this is very true in my hometown but I thought that somewhere it would have to be different. This year I've got a great opportunity which I thought it could change my life: i can spend some months in another town but sadly I've found out that over there it's the same at all as here. Lacking in look, power, and wealth, I think I have to accept my actual condition. Maybe in some other place in this world there's somebody who isn't only looking for such things. I won't stop looking for a place where i can feel alright but I won't stop improving myself - that's what really counts, in my opinion.

So. if eveyone is trying to date for years, and feels so lonely, I cannot understand why you all don't be active on this site, say if you're a M or F, post interesting topics, get to know each other more and get rid of the loneliness.

Looks is not the only thing that matters in a relationship. Yes it does help but in the end it comes down to how well you connect with a person. Yeah most people go for the more good looking people but in the end everyone just wants to find that one person that realy cares about them and they can truly relate to. You just have to not give up because once you believe you cant have love you will miss all the oportunities that might come along just keep trying put yourself out there, try online dating or going somewhere where there is a chance you will meat someone that has common interests

Sure, sweetviki, it isn't the only thing that matters in a relationship, but I can tell you that it's important. I've been connected to a woman which I really cared for and she could really trust me but it wasn't enough: we had a relationship for a while but she didn't like me so much and soon we splitted.
For some people looks etc. are more important than common interests etc. I've also met some people which choose a friend depending on his/her looks, fashion, family, etc. That's very mean I think, but over here the most part of ppl does it, and I must face it everyday.
I keep going on my path, and leave behind me all these things.