But I don't automatically assume any of these things about anyone.

I'm presumed to be a complete sex fiend, liar or criminal before I even have a chance to do or say anything...just for having a penis.

I'm tired of being punished for mistakes made by others. I have no control over the idiots that treat women like garbage. If I could wipe them all off the face of the earth for you I certainly would, but I don't have that kind of power...yet.

It would be nice to be given the benefit of a doubt, but I realize that's asking far too much.

Right on, good post.

ClosetGeek, JustLost-

Y'all both need to stop the bitching. The fact is, everybody assumes shit about everybody else. Neither men nor women will erase the stereotypes that are attached to them.

It's simply your responsibility to be yourself. If they're not interested, stereotypes aside, they're not interested.

And besides, you should thank your stars that those stereotypes exist, because now you've got a perfect opportunity to make yourself look better by comparison. Makes the job a little easier.

I don't think I can stop bitching, it kind of feels like my job at this point.

I do agree there are stereotypes on both sides of the fence. I don't blame anyone, it's just a shame it has to be that way.

I think that whatever you put here someone will take offence...we are all different...we are all going to want and look for different things.

There does have to be some kind of sexual attraction...you have to fancy the person otherwise I don't see the point...now what we fancy and are attracted to is again very much different depending on who we are.

Whether we agree with each other or not...everyone at some point looks at someone else and makes a judgement about that person...and for that I would say that we are all pretty much the same...but those judgements are made from our own experiences of people and life...and we cannot be too critical of that.

Would be interested to read others replies to what I have just written.

In my lifetime I have realized that the only girls that find me attractive are ones who had something SOOOOO bad happen to them in the past from an ex-boyfriend or friend that they use me to take out their mental frustrations.

Sometimes its good. Most of the time its bad and I experience some REAL f****d up stuff that I would never wish my worst enemy to experience.

Honestly, I am not a homosexual. I thought about for a long time and I realized that I just don't need a female companion for the rest of my life.

I do not hate women. I live with three women (my grandmother, mother, and sister) and do my best everyday to make their lives better and I try to help and take care of anyone I see that I think might need a helping hand, whether they are male or female. I try my best without being too involved or creepy.

If I were to just hang out with a female for a coffee or movie I would just like her to be relaxed and talk about whatever is on her or my mind without being awkward about it.

Isn't there someone for everyone? You don't want to attract every single type of guy...I mean, let the guys who only worship massive boobs drool all over girls who dress like strippers.

I can relate to you so much. You have no idea.

LOL Incognita. I think we could be a good match

Tomboys are cool. I like them

... You know what? I have no idea what to look for in a girl, lol... I just sorta figured if someone likes me, they'd let me know, and then I could be attracted to them...