Well, my expirence goes as follows. I became a loner first and as a result, my grades went up. The reason was that since I had nobody to hang out with, there was nothing to distract me anymore from school work. Now I get straight As. But am I really inteligent? I don't think so. I've just got lot's of time on my hands and I never really got into any typical "loser activities" (e.g. gaming, D&D, magic cards, etc.) I've actually read that article before and I've got kind of a mixed reaction to it.

On the one hand getting good grades is shitty compensation for a non-existant social life. However my greatest fear right now is losing the good grades so that I'd have absolutly no redeeming qualities about me. On the other hand though, when I'm feeling very bitter and misanthropic I tend to romanticize loneliness: I associate happiness with idiocy and socialization with hedonism. So, if I read the artical when I'm in that mood it kind of validates those feelings.

But yeah. In my situation the loner-lifestyle has lead to inteligence (insofar as it can be reflected on a transcript), and I'm not sure how typical it is. I think when you've got all the time in the world to brood alone over your lot in life it can lead to new insights--that's one of the reasons I'm so pissed that I don't have much time for personal reflection anymore since I've got to work and go to school at the same time; I don't get to do much sould searching these days. However, inteligence isn't really all that valuable to me. If I had the chance I'd flush all that I've learned right out of my head in a heart beat for a friend or two.

you know how you mentoned your grades got better, so far this summer i've gotten a lot more exercise iin becuse when i would hang out with my friends all we would do is sit on the couch all day and play games or watch tv. They never wanted to do anything, i mean it would be a great day and I'd be like we should tottally go to the pool, but they they rarely ever wanted to go. That was a really depressing part of last summer i had just gotten my liscence and i was so excited i could go anywhere whenever i wanted, but they all just wanted stay in their dark basement, I had a lot of lazy friends. So ya being a loner has it's perks, but ya being lonely kinda sucks, i miss her wii i never got a chance to finish twilight princess and she still has my ps2 memory card, you think if your just going to ditch me you could at least have the decency to give my stuff back. God, two faced manipulitive whore!
-thanks for letting me get that off my chest

This post was last modified: 07-01-2008 12:42 PM by evanescencefan91.

No problemo

This theory is flawed in the fact that I exist.

I'm a complete dumbass, yet I'm also the most unhappy and lonely person I know.

I suspect there are other stupid people who are also lonely. We usually don't hear from them due to the fact that the intelligent ones are the most vocal and articulate about it.

You are the farthest thing away from a dumbass as there is.

This isnt true. being smart and loneliness arnt related. My older brother is doing a maths degree and hes always partying, meeting new people and absolutely loving life.

Tho some smart people are smart because they are lonely, because they stay at home all the time and have nothing better to do then read and study.

And dont knock einstien, he had a wife, he was famous. i dont think he was lonely at all.

Also you can be academicaly smart, yet be a total dumbarse in regards to life decisions.

I've been told that I'm smart. My thoughts on this are that maybe the high-IQ people prefer to socialize with other people that are on par with their intelligence level, and high-IQ isn't exactly average in people. So maybe that is why they are loners some of the time. I am friends with people who have common sense, so maybe you could put me in the category of a smart loner, since I have about 4 or 5 close friends in real life.

I like the Nietzsche way of looking at it: Basically there are two types of people, the strong who end up in solitude, and the weak who end up as a herd.

I'm stupid and lonely. I always seem to say the wrong thing.

How does saying the wrong thing tie into stupidity?

I haven't read anything hinting at your lack of intellect.