maybe Im just stuck in self-pity, but is life really supposed to feel this lonely? I keep getting the thought in my head that theres something wrong with me - I know thats just some horrific lie, but at the same time, I just feel so alone, like no one will ever love me. Why is it the minute that I feel someone might be interested in me, I get my hopes up, and then when they change their mind for whatever reason, I feel absolutely crushed?? Is life really supposed to feel this painful??

No, it's not. I had the very same thoughts in my teen-age. If You live with Your parents i'd like to know where the hell they are in all of this. No offense, but my parents almost caused my death numerous times so i can be quite unforgiving for those assholes who don't even notice their children are depressed.

It's obvious You haven't been shown half of the love You've deserved in Your life. It's not Your fault, i can spot the kind soul in Your posts.

Kermit,

No, you are NOT supposed to feel this way! Modern life is VERY lonely. Very unnatural for people to live alone and secluded in tiny, stressed nuclear families!

We are meant to live in Clans! (Not just racially divided clans, to ensure genetic variation). We are meant to live in COMMUNITIES. You will find your circle of friends one day!


Much love,

LG.

No, I feel the exact same way. That's why I think I'm so afraid of rejection. I build my hopes up and fear the fall that may come. I think I've lost windows of opportunity in the past with chicks b/c of my my fears stalling me. Life is painful man. It's cold out there. Without someone close to your heart the only thing people want from you is money or work. Love is an essential ingredient to a happy life. Without it you are just pushing shit around for someone else for a buck and sleeping. I'm seriously beginning to believe that happiness is only possible with someone near me.

Couldn't have been said better myself. Keep your head up and don't give up in life. Your one will come eventually.

Robin that is fantastic! I totally agree that any parents who don't notice and/or do anything constructive about their kids' depression or sadness should be slapped very hard. My parents never dealt with their own emotional issues and that rubbed-off on their kids with messy results.
I love the idea of a community and I just joined a welcoming community group who invited me to spend time with them on weekends. I think it is impossible as a lonely individual in this society to find a partner easily and quickly because there are many social barriers and requirements of a person that are quite frankly, not suited to an emotionally-wanting individual.
Please find a group of caring, like-minded and similar (in some way or form) people who you can join a community with because it is not worth the heartache doing this alone. Good luck

I appreciate Your effort, Ricardo and agree with what You say about finding like-minded people.

Robin that is fantastic! I totally agree that any parents who don't notice and/or do anything constructive about their kids' depression or sadness should be slapped very hard. My parents never dealt with their own emotional issues and that rubbed-off on their kids with messy results.
I love the idea of a community and I just joined a welcoming community group who invited me to spend time with them on weekends. I think it is impossible as a lonely individual in this society to find a partner easily and quickly because there are many social barriers and requirements of a person that are quite frankly, not suited to an emotionally-wanting individual.
Please find a group of caring, like-minded and similar (in some way or form) people who you can join a community with because it is not worth the heartache doing this alone. Good luck

having no one to appreciate and love you is awful. I just had a great friend leave me and there is such an emptiness!! I put my heart into this girl but never got enough back. the problem was that I was so needy for love that it scares away someone. Somehow we have to be well rounded, content and confident to succeed with the other sex ( i think...)

I am also very, very needy. I need alot of love and support from my spouse to be able to be in a good mood (and help others). A partner can give You much more love than anyone else ever can and that's why it's important to find one (and understandable why people feel so empty without one.)

It seems to me as this girl somehow either didn't quite understand that You wanted her to be Your lover (in a potentially platonic way, as well) or didn't see what she's looking for in a partner in You. She might not have been ready for that sake either.

I understand that You can feel it's quite a task to "succeed" with the other sex, but i believe that the relationship that doesn't come easily (as in the two parts being completely sure about the other one being "the one") isn't worth fighting for, not only because, as You say, it might be a lost cause anyway. Jumping into something isn't something i recommend (even if the two of You are crazy about each other), but going through a hazzle to get there probably isn't going to satisfy Your hearts desires either.

Searching for more and trying to get to know more contacts (women, in this case) is more important than giving it all out for one person, if You're not certain that the feelings are mutual with Your current catch. Some day, i'm sure, most of us will meet someone we wish we'd meet instead our current partners, i'm afraid, so don't jump into things if You want something to last forever.

I am not depressed, I just think living sucks, so I'm not sure what the difference between being sad and lonely all the time and being depressed is but if you are depressed then you should deffs see a shrink or something and take some meds. If you're just sad and lonely, there is some unfortunate news for you because life sucks and the only one who can make you feel better is yourself. I'm sorry, but it's true. I've tried to blame the way I feel on my parents and other people bet in the end I'm the one who feels that way, not them. So I hope you find peace but I don't think anything is wrong with you, unless the same thing is also wrong with me as well.