It must be easy since almost everyone I know has friends. If it was super hard then most of the world would be lonely, so why is it so hard? Does anyone have an answer? I been trying to make friends for the past 11 years to no avail, so what am I missing that come so natural for other people.

My family are some of the most talkative people I know. My mom, dad, sister have many friends and can make friends so easily. In fact almost all my mom client are her friend and love her. My sister also has many friends and she most of the time is a jerk. She hit her BF many times, and yet she has a few boyfriends so far in her life. My dad hate talking on the phone, but every time he meet new people, they become his friend after the first meeting.

I on the other hand have an extremely difficult time simply just interacting with people. I guess I will get straight to the point. My parent think it is a walk in the park persay that making friends is easy. They already know I have no friend, and they don't know the worry I feel when I go back to school. My parents think it easy, and said I should worry about finding a girlfriend or not, but the thing I'm worry right now is how do I make friends? I don't want this to end like last year where I feel completely lost and suicidal. I need friends, and am I defective?

You don't need friends, you just need friend.

How old are you ?

This post was last modified: 08-26-2008 05:13 PM by Lonesome Crow.

He is at college and in he's early 20s. Am sure he wont mined me saying.

Thanks Bluey.....that was easy lol

You know those people you first meet and you think, hey, i like that guy. When someone greets you friendly and takes an interest in you when you don't even know that person, you automatically like them.
You need to try and be that person.

Everyone has met people and within 5 seconds you like them. I have a friend who is great at making an impression on people. We where at restaurant with a few people we only knew from the night before, and anyway the waitress asked how would you like your eggs, and he said, on my plate. and she laughed. and then hes like, i bet you get that alot. and after that she was smiling the rest of the time. Something as small as that can make someones day. just show a bit of personality, and people will like you. If we just treated her like a waitress, like someone doing her job, she would have no interest in us.

Alot of people need that "ice breaker" before they will even talk, they may seem like they dont care about you or whatever, as soon as you ask them something, say hello, they open up and tell you all about there day and so on. Everyone likes nice people, joyfull people. even if your having a bad day, dont let it show.

This post was last modified: 08-26-2008 09:27 PM by Porman.

For me, it's the vibe I put out. If I put up a wall or walk around with a dark cloud over me, people
don't really know how to approch me. Even though they might wanna say hi or something but
if have a sort of attitude , people won't approch me..becuase they don't know what to say
or what kind of reaction I might do. So they don't approch me.

If i'm mellow and easy going , I'm more approchable. Though i might not be freind everyone
I come across, but I increase my chances.
Gosh man...I had so many women approched me..though I don't get involve or become close
friends with all of them. They say hi to me in passing. Or if they sit next to me in class, I just make
freindly talk to them. Sometimes they're single sometimes they're not. Sometimes i have lunch with them
sometimes i go study with him. Sometimes they give me a ride home or visa versa.
Sometimes I walk them home. Sometimes I walk to class with them. But it's like that if they're guys or girls.
So..if it a girl, I'm not stocking her...I just run into her during my day. I don't go crazy and tell her everything
about me life. But the more enteraction I have with her, the more i get to know her. Then the next i know she handling
me her phone number ..whatever excuse she'll say to have me call her.lol.

So yeah..it's bascailly a sort of ice breaker..but it dosn't happen overnite.
You have to understand...other people have a hardtime making friends or don't know how to approch
people or know exactly how to break the ice either...there's not going to be a especific or perfect moment.
I mind my own bussiness but to stay open and make myself approchable.

Sometimes if you know a friend, he's dating someone...but his GF has a friend. And they just wanna go hang out..stuff like that.
So he'll invite you to go hang out with them.

And sometimes you have to bribe yourself. You have to promise yourself...Going to school is to get
and education not meet girls. And you have to tell yourself...you're going get straight A's no matter what.
and the next you know..there's damn babes and friends asking you to go do stuff all the time instead of studying.lmao

This post was last modified: 08-26-2008 10:48 PM by Lonesome Crow.

Haha Crow your a natural. What I mean earlier by being "defective" is I have some sort of defective gene? My mom and I share everything in which her gene pass down to me, so why don't I have this type of gene of her. Sometime I don't think she really my mom, I mean she can talk on the phone for hours on end, while I can't even talk for more than a minute. I seen her talk to people, there is no such thing as an "ice breaker" in my mom vocabulary, she just talk to everyone and I don't know how she does it, but so many people love her.

Well i havn´t made any new friends in my new class yet.
But wth im used to it.

DO you go places where people share your hobbies? If you play video games, there are plenty of Lan Gaming centers and arcades o be found across the country. Like Music? Go to a concert, talk to some one about the band. Like reading? Book store, be friendly towards someone who is in the same section you are at.

It's not completely complicated.