Well would I limit who I date because of ethnicity heck no. However am I predisposed to be less interested in a girl because of her ethnicity a bit yes. Like I go to a college with a large asian population at least 45-50%. But due to the fact that I am black, I really don't want to deal with a lot of racism that comes with these girls. Nor do I feel like dealing with their cultural problems that I will encounter. Granted I recently dated a chinese-american girl. Her parents were obviously racist against black people, and she seemed like the type who was just rebelling.
Either way would I not date someone because of ethnicity, would I be a bit more wary because of it yes. Granted I am going to run into a lot of racism in my time from every type, because everyone has it. But also the asian female thing also has to do with attraction and normally they are to petite for me to enjoy. As for minds that is a luck of the roll, and if I find a good mind then i am lucky if not oh well. So far I haven't found much in the personality department.

To me race and ethnicity are not so much an issue as culture and world view.

This post was last modified: 07-21-2008 05:11 AM by Antihero.

Does color of skin effect person's ability to love or feel love?

To me it means as much as color of person's hair really. Most people here are white skinned though, which is understandable since I live in a nordic country. It wouldn't bother me though if I would find someone who I like (and would like me back) if she would have darker skin than I have. Why this person is warding you off only because you are white is absurd in my mind, but hey, if that is his decision about it then it is his own loss. Also of course there is a chance he changes his mind later about it later. I wouldn't personally hang on it though, unless you feel this guy feels like someone who is super-special-awesome in your eyes.

Interesting question. I've never really given it much thought, I guess. Only twice has anyone, other than white men, asked me out. When I was 17, I was asked out by a 20 year old Hispanic guy. He seemed nice enough and he was known by my sister. Not Nal, but my other sister. I went out with him and he tried to put some moves on me, lol. I rejected his advances and made him take me home. I heard later that he'd called me a "damned white girl.":p
When I was about 32, there was a black guy who asked me out. I turned him down flat. NOT because of his skin color, but because I knew he was a man whore, lol!!! So, while I don't have much experience as far as dating people of a different ethnicity, I can honestly say that, when I was asked out by the two guys I spoke of, not once did their race even cross my mind. I think that who you date/marry is a personal preference. You know who you can be happy with and who you can't and for your own reasons.
I do think however, that the guy you mentioned was trying to give you a compliment. Maybe he is too young to realize it was a back-handed one, at best.

im more intrested in what music and political views we share. who really cares, true love is color blind

True dat, joe!

Dosen't matter as long as they like me... Also, they should be able to make me cookies...

mmmmmm cookies, and bannana bread
oh yea thats a keeper

All second that, Good way to put it.

I really dont understand why would people let race interfere with their emotions. I think, if a person chooses his/her mates based on RACE, its not worth it at all. all it means is that that person is judgmental, prejudiced, selfish, narrow minded... it shows nothing nothing positive other than trying to preserve your own race (is there a need for it?")


if anything, id prefer a different race. i really liked going out with different race just because there's something to talk about all the time, CULTURES! that adds excitement.