Ditto! Something we can agree on. You have the freedom to say whatever you want, and I will not verbally attack you,
degrade you, judge you or tell you what you should be doing. I appreciate the same in return. : ) Glad we could come to an agreement.

This post was last modified: 08-05-2008 02:21 AM by Naleena.

I know I said this in the chat over and over, but I'll say it again. Sorry you got offended by what we were talking about, we didn't mean anything.

Free-Style Chat
Not recommended for anyone under 18. Enter at Your own risk!

A direct quote from the Rules page. If anyone doesn't care for the subject matter, there is another chat room. There is also an "ignore" fucntion that can be utilized. There is no need to harshly judge others, no matter which side of the moral fence you think they're on. No one should ever paint everyone with the same brush stroke. Everyone is entitled to their own views and opinions, no matter how juvenile, prudish, or free spirited. Anytime you come to a public forum, you can expect to be offended at some point, because there is such a wide range of thoughts and beliefs among the members. I didn't see even ONE member in the chat room who wouldn't have toned down the conversation, had they been asked. It's always a bad situation when someone has been offended on the forum. However, this is a chat room issue and those are a little more tricky. Especially the freestyle chat room. People have different lifestyles and that is why there are different chat rooms and the Main Chat is moderated to prevent anything other than PG chat.
Bottom line:
When I see something on TV that offends me....

I change the channel!

PS: Anyone who I've offend, please feel free to use the ignore function on me!

This post was last modified: 08-05-2008 02:15 AM by EveWasFramed.

Black Cat, I am sorry too, if anyone got offended. I am not sorry for what we were talking about. Don't let anyone define you or make you feel bad. I think we have said sorry enough. I'm not appologizing anymore.

This post was last modified: 08-05-2008 02:24 AM by Naleena.

BC, don't apologize when you've done nothing wrong, please.

I appreciate the comments. However, I did say something, without trying to be too rude and I was told I needed therapy. I went to the main chat, but there was no1 there to speak to, because you were all in freestyle. I guess, it's either sit in silence or go where the people are. I know I had the option to stay or leave, I was hoping I might run into someone, but alas they never came. I understand people are entitled to their views and opinions, but I've said things before about the conversation. As blue said, I don't mind the flirting or the games or things of that nature, but when it gets into talking about what people want to do or how they do it etc., it becomes just another site like...well; Yahoo for instance. Less than classy. I should not have made this post. I abhor confrontation, but I felt some things had to be said.

I'm sorry that someone told you that you needed therapy, Doll. Maybe that comment was made in reference to your statement about your husband? I'm sure the person who said it wasn't trying to offend you, but I'm sorry anyway. I also understand that the main chat an be empty at times, so freestyle is the only alternative. I came into the chat after most of the content in question was already over. PLEASE speak up more or even PM someone if you have to. No one wants to deliberately offend anyone. Having said that, I'm sure that a lot of people took offense at your post because it seemed pretty judgemental. I understand that you were frustrated, but please just try to rememeber that, just because someone doesn't share your views on what's moral and what isn't, doesn't make them bad or immoral people. Just different. Again, I'm sorry that you were made to feel the way you were and I hope that you continue to use the forum.

Hey Irish,
I am sorry if you tried to say something and for whatever reason, it wasn't heard or wasn't interpreted as it should have been? Who knows what goes on when there are so many people in chat. Please let someone know next time by pming or just say "Hey guys, This is too offensive for me!" Shout it if you have to! : ) We will understand. I will be more sensitive now that I know what offends you and I do respect your feelings. I like talking to you. And if at anytime you come into the free style room and I personally say something that bothers you, please pm me. I won't take offense. : ) I hope you continue to come back. There are a lot of people who like you. We are a little different but, we can all get along and respect each other.

This post was last modified: 08-05-2008 03:54 AM by Naleena.

I think the question here now is what went wrong and how can we make sure this becomes a positive, productive situation? There was a communication breakdown somewhere. How can we make sure that doesn't happen again? Everyone's rights need to be respected. Everyone needs the freedom to express themselves and their opinions. Everyone also has the right to feel welcome and be in a situation they are comfortable with. What can we do or what could we have done to ensure that? I don't want to see anyone leave the forum. Everyone is important here.

I was surpised to read bluehawk's comments - clearly his recollection of events differs from my own.

But I digress. I do agree with Nal, that there was a failure in communication. I did miss any comments made about therapy, so I can't easily comment on that individual issue. Personally, I wouldn't expect anyone to change their beliefs and values to match my own, and I would hope that most people would agree with me.

Different people will find differing subjects uncomfortable. Religion, abortion, drug abuse, politics, just to name a few, may challenge someone's deeply held beliefs, and not provide the light hearted relief the person expected. This does not mean that such conversation should in any way be censored; merely that someone's reluctance to discuss an issue should be made known to those concerned, whom I would imagine would then adopt a different topic.