I would happily go out with a woman with children.

As a divorced Dad of three I am used to them, but even Moms with "baggage" are picky these days it seems. I have been alone for 13 months and I hate it. I feel I will die alone and miserable. Life really is shitty, personally and financially.

My ex-girlfriend had four children from two different marriages.

Although it was difficult sometimes to coordinate schedules, it wasn't impossible.

wooooooowwww

i wanted to ask u couple more questions...but i wont

Hi Penny. I'm replying to your post to let you know I understand your situation. I left my first husband. I had 3 children with him. My oldest was 6 and my youngest was 2. I met my current husband who is 5 years younger than me. My children bonded quite well with him at first and he with them. However, he had never been married or had children before. It has basically turned into a disaster. I'm also on the verge of leaving this wonderful hubby, for alot of the same reasons you are. We've been married for 11 years. I would honestly consider being with someone else again if I had kids, but I would definitely make sure he had some understanding of what it means to be a parent. Your child is still very young and would probably bond well with someone new, but the question is how will your new love interest bond with him? I'm sure it's quite safe to move forward Penny, but be prepared to be picky about who you let into your heart. I hope this helps even a little bit. And truly good luck in all that you decide.

This post was last modified: 05-29-2008 03:58 PM by Irishdoll.

Thank you all for your replies.
The more I think about it, the more determined I am to leave him. I feel for my son because I know he is the one who is going to suffer the most in all this, but I have his best interest at heart so I'm sure he'll understand someday. I think worrying about no other man wanting me was just me using that as an excuse to stay with him..if I stay single for the rest of my life, it won't be the worst thing. I'll survive. As long as my son is happy and healthy, then that's pretty much all I need. So right now I am going to focus on finding a job and just save up what I can so that I can find my own place and finally say goodbye to him. It's going to be hard, and even thinking about that day has me feeling very anxious right now, but I know it's something I have to do. And I must go cry now.

Penny, there is no way you will be alone for the rest of ur life...
Also thinking about living alone for the 1st time is sometimes a scare feeling but after a while u kinda like ur freedom..no one is around to tell u what to do or expect u to cook dinner when ur tired after 12 hours work day or otherwise they will get mad and wont talk.. Its just so much lessss stressful. U wont be single dont worry. You have just been with him i think like for ever so this seems like the end of the world. And if u try hard anough to get some education or a degree you might wind up very well off on ur own.

This post was last modified: 05-29-2008 09:58 PM by Incognita.

That makes it a bit difficult to provide an answer.

well, i was just curious...why were u with her in the 1st place, how long and why broke up...

....and maybe why not tell the whole story?
This kind of relationships always puzzzzzzzled me ....


As tyra banks says ,looking pretty in her comfy couch ,...:" Sooo, tell us about it"

This post was last modified: 05-30-2008 05:39 AM by Incognita.

No problem Tyra...uh...Incognita.

I met her on a BBS that a friend and I ran. For those of you too young to remember, a BBS (Bulletin Board Service) was a pre-internet message board. You called in with a 1200 baud modem and could post messages and reply. We started talking one day and eventually ended up meeting...and falling in love.

The fact that she had kids didn't even phase me. I liked her too much to let it get in the way. They were all great, not a brat in the bunch and I got along with all of them.

We talked about living together, getting married, etc, but for some reason things never materialized. It was no one's fault, we were just big procrastinators.

Things came to a halt when one evening a man with a ladder broke into her upstairs bedroom while she was home alone. I won't go into detail but he basically did terrible things for hours and left her for dead. Amazingly, she lived.

After that happened, I guess she decided she wanted to start her life over fresh. This didn't include me and she stopped returning my phonecalls. I think perhaps she simply couldn't deal with a relationship at that point. I understand why she had to let me go but I was still devastated. We were together for 6 years.

Anyway, there's my tragic tale...and one of the many reasons why I'm a very sad person.

Maybe I should have started a different thread. I hope I didn't derail this one too much.

thanks...
pardon me...but why did u like her so much?