Hello my friends. So I stopped by a few months ago, then registered a few days ago, and sent out a couple of private messages to people I'd have liked to gotten to know. I posted in the "Where are you" thread.

As of today, nobody I sent a PM to has responded. I find this rather silly. Here we all are, on a site of lonely people, and people still aren't interested in helping eachother? Are people really that self-centered?

I don't think so, I think we just don't know where to start in helping eachother with the loneliness we all have. If you find yourself unwilling to help others, well, that's probably why *you're* lonely.

I'd like to get some of us working together to make sure that every member has received at least one friendly message, and has someone to talk to. Reply if you will help with this. We'd need at least 10 people to make it work, so that means pretty much everyone active on the forum.

Hi and welcome, Empathy!
Lately I've been posting everyday, sometimes I can't post because often I'm not home and I haven't got a connection at home in the town where I often work.
Anyway, I also think that maybe

Hi Empathy, "A Lonely Life" has very special members, they are all invisible, I login 10s of times a day to check who is there, NOBODY, how they post their threads, I don't know. Is it a special feature of the site because we all feel lonely?, or I imagine so because I feel lonely! Don't loose hope.

I have found the best thing is when you feel you are helping someone else with something. I am very willing to be part of this. With me the lonliness comes and goes, but the need to help is always a big part of my life. We all are made so speical and unique, and are searching so diligently for that little slot in life that makes us enjoy this life.

your words bring something inside me to life again, I usually loved to help someone, but had some disappointments, and at the end I prefered to live with myself. I understand what you mean, it's a great feeling, but what you want to do?

My dilemma: helping somebody makes me feel good, but I've had too many disappointments. I don't tell you my story, it's too long and boring. That's one of the main reasons why I am (and feel) lonely.

We're not a community, so our degrees of loneliness are going to vary. Some people will feel lonely for a single day, some will feel it from day to day, and some will feel like they've been lonely their whole life. Not everyone will feel they can help another lonely person and some will not even want to open up to anyone because we each deal with loneliness differently. Tragically, we need more than a forum to cope with loneliness in a healthy and appropriate manner. Also, we're each in different time zones and some of you don't even log in for like a week. However, I agree that if a pm is sent, a reply should be sent whether the interest is mutual or not. I know I haven't received any because I usually try my best to reply to every one of them.

That's true.

That's also true.
 

We need indeed something else than a forum to cope with it, but I think that sharing our thoughts and experiences is a good thing, if anything it is a way to open up to somebody who's lonely too.

I just so truly believe we are all very special, and at risk of stepping on toes; I certainly believe in a higher being who created all of us. Thus said, nothing really happens without a reason and every action has a reaction. I think I stumbled on this site for a reason, and I feel I am sitting here typing for a REASON. The Let's fix this is such a good start, and it offers so much opportunity on this site to actually help someone else. Yes, folks hurt us and sometimes they continute to hurt us over and over, but we must find the ones who do not plan to hurt us. They, themselves, are hurting inside. I would love to hear some optimism about different ways this site has given us a different outlook. So much said. I guess this is one of my optimistic good days. lol

I usually had the feeling that people feeling lonely are sensitive people, and I found this site a good place to express myself, and I'm glad to see you all communicating in this nice way. I had an idea and I don't know if it works or not, I also asked the Administrator Bjarne about it, and as you all said "We need more than a forum to cope with loneliness", but we are in different places. So, if we have a chat page here, will it bring us all together in a better way, or it will be the same: lonely people lonely site.