I am a mother and a wife with quite a tight working schedule. Even though I have my family around, I feel so lonely most of the times. I take care of my child, my husband, do my duties, and still weeks pass by before I can speak anyhting to anybody. My husband is very busy in the office, so cannot find time even for emergencies. After he comes home, he spends three hours with his son, an hour chatting with his relatives and rest watching news. In the mean time I keep looking at him to get 10 mins of his attention..............too busy!!!!!!!! At night when I try to talk........well, he's too sleepy.
I feel his attitude is forcing me to step outside my moral rights, as many a times I want to go out, find a friend who could respect me as a person and I could talk to, even if its just few times a week. I love my husband and do not want to do anyhting that will affect my children's future. I used to be a very happy, always smiling person, and now even if I want to say something, I keep my mouth shut, 'coz I know its crazy to speak to walls. I feel I'm slowly dying inside.
Am I the only one feeling like this? Is there any solution?

Have you tried explaining to him how you feel?

Yes, many times in the past three years but all in vein.  

Yes, many times in the past three years but all in vain (not vein, sorry!!!!!).

I wish you well and hope things get better.

I am curious about something. What is immoral about talking to a friend?

No, you are certainly not the only one who feels like this. I know more than a few people who are living lonely lives surrounded by their families. Some people's lives are elaborate acts, complete with all the props. The weird thing is that you can often never tell from the outside.

Is there a solution? I don't know. As Bjarne said, talking to your husband is a good first step.

Cheers,
--ss7.

I appreciate all your replies and concerns. Thanx. Its nice to be able to express ones feelings and to know that there is someone listening.

There is nothing immoral about having a good friend. In fact I wish I had one in my husband. I have read, heard and felt too, that in the mental state that I am in, people tend to be emotionally vulnerable. And in that state they might take decisions or actions they otherwise would not. So when I wrote about not wanting to cross my moral line, all I meant was I don't want to slip through the cracks of my marriage without realising. I might start leaning on the friend just way too much or cling way too tight even without realising it. I still want to give my marriage a chance and hope it will work, for the sake of my children especially.

I guess I will talk to him again, be patient, share with you all and hope to get things better. I have come to realise that one cannot make a bond, either there is love or there's not. If not, then its just bad luck and one needs to work things accordingly. I am hoping there is some love left in my case, just needs to resurface again. Hope so, wish so!!!!!!!!

Thanx again.  

I understand your concern now. It seems to be a valid one. As I said, all the best for the future.

--ss7

nothing much, i have read your thread, and to be honest i do sympathy with u. it made me sad myself!

tell us what happend!? are things better!? did u talk to him!?
to be honest with you `nothing much` i really really hope you dont cross that line, and i u want to then tell ur husband the whole truth and that it getting now where. if he's not able to walk the %50 the way then fair enough.
i'm sorry, i'm not giving advises cause i learnt from life that people normally give shit advises.
but let's us know please.
take care and i wish u heartly things be ok.

Hi lonely with a family.  I think i understand how you feel as i am in a similar position. I have a busy, demanding and enjoyable job and a wife with whom I get on well except for one thing, she does not want to get close emotionally. She is very anxious about life (& everything else) and needs constantly reassuring. She certainly doesn't have the wish or spare emotional energy to really understand my needs.  I will tell you more if you are interested.
Like you I value the relationship & don't want to be unfaithful but just need someone who understands the emotional isolation and wants to share some feelings & ideas every so often.

I would happily be your e pen-pal.

Carlos

Hi "nothing much", I think there is nothing more to be said; I think lot of people are facing the same boring life, it's the lousy life we are all living these days, as if we are running in a fast track. Did you think of a vacation even a short one, it could help, it could be a chance to fix your relation with your husband, and don't give up for the sake of your marriage and your children.