Good luck

I get lots of this directed my way... I've been told many times by a wide range of people that I am a good listener... I just find it easier to sit and listen and don't mind contributing at points in the conversation where the person asks a question or seems to be seeking for input. I'm not talkative at all though... Who is there to listen to the guy who always listens? As long as they don't go into praising themselves I don't mind being there to listen... if a conversation hits a point where they are talking about how great they are or whatever I turn without a word and walk away. Only a couple people have done this... immodesty is a huge pet peeve of mine. If you ever catch me praising myself please, I beg of you, give me a slap to level me out again!

Lonerism... I like that word... I like adding -ism, -ics, -ness, -ly, -ity, and other word endings to words where they don't belong for fun sometimes... lonerismnessiosity

This post was last modified: 11-07-2007 01:24 AM by Lost in the Oilfield.

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Yes, there really is medication (im not sure if that sounds better than calling it drugs eh?) which can be given to help with shyness. It's not really made for that purpose, but here in my country, it's given by Dr's to help 'extremely' shy people, and also those with mild depression. Its called 'cipramil', i think thats how its spelt.

I had a good friend (a girl, would you believe it? well really she was a relative so i dont get popularity bonus points there i suppose), and she took them for a long time. They did help, not to actually get past shyness, but to just have a little less of the huge anxiety attached to it.

Also, yep, i get shy too, but not in a way that normally holds me back from talking. I just don't feel well, 'worthy' of other peoples attention so it makes it hard to keep a chat going.

I find it easy online, but in real life, its so different eh?

I hope all you extraodinarely shy people find a way to get past it some time, i do remember i couldnt talk to anybody back in school. Then, it just changed in me at about 14. I dont remember doing anything, i just became more confident in company. Hope that happens to others (whatever your ages may be).

That's me, but I'm adjusting to all this. Maybe first try see yourself where you are as perfectly fine (it is, who defines what's good and bad anyway?). What you need to change is your attitude towards everything. I know what you're going through because I'm trying just like you but sometimes I wish I could stop trying. That's where the problem lies. You need to boost your confidence. It's working for me now. Although I still wish I could go out with new people more I'm beginnin to see myself as an okay person. A good start.

Im too insecure to start a conversation, but when someone starts talking to me I can go off on a tangent. I dont like walking up to new people and possibly looking like an ass, the probability that I'll make a fool of myself is too much, at least if they start the conversation I kinda feel like they want to hear me. I am in a relationship but Im too much of a coward to stand up and act like it (Im a 16year old, 6ft, well built guy amd Im scared of stupid things....boy am I manly....the fact that Im currently listening to Pink on my ipod probably doesnt help either XD)

There are people I can hang out and talk with at my school, but I feel as if that is all they are interested in, once school's out they go their separate ways and have fun, I go home or roam downtown alone...Im about ready to pack up and see how far my $ stash will take me. I would aim for Canada but who knows...lol

I've tried talking to random people a few times ussally doesn't really get anywhere, I'm always so afraid they think I'm somekind of psyco freak and just want me to go away.

i hope I'm not somekind of psyco freak

people at school i occasionally chat with, at the most i think they just find me tolerable, and humor me when i want to say something.

I never know if they're just really good at acting interested or caring, I'm often very naive too. I wish i wasn't

Yeah, evanescencefan, I always fear people thinking that I'm a psycho weirdo. Funny thing is, I become a psycho weirdo when I try to talk to people. I think the only honestly relaxed conversations I've ever had have been a) in my head, b) drunk or high. It's hilarious and embarrassing looking back now, but if someone approaches me and I'm not expecting it, I get really tongue tied and start stuttering really bad. Then I have a really nervous laugh. And I can never really find a subject to talk about, except school, the weather, the weekend, or some newsworthy thing happening. It's kinda a vicious cycle for me. The problem is, I always tend to commit more than the other person. However, I'm really terrible with names, which has been an issue in the past, lol. There's only so many times you can say "dude" or "heeeeeey! how are you buddy?"

If you are in school, you could always ask your classmates about the next homework/test. Or the most recent test/homework.

And if its very boring, ask your classmates "Don't you find this class boring?"

I'm not really shy when talking to one person but I never know what to talk about, there's nothing to talk about, I dont have a exciting life with stories to tell. I could tell them about stuff I'm into like digital art stuff, but when I did that once it was like they didn't really care and were just like "yea thats cool" whatever.