I personally think you cannot, unless you meet someone who doesn't care about having a social life.

Think a few years down the line when you both get bored of each other and want some other type of company. People get sick of each other after a certain amount of time. All relationships with anyone has an expiry date.

That's life.

I believe it is possible to be autonomous AND have a healthy relationship. It's good when two people can respect each other as seperate entities. Nothing is more wearing to me than someone
who expects my every waking moment to be devoted to "us."
While I recognize the impotance of a mate and their needs/feelings (and do my best to be sensitive to that within reason) I also feel a responsibility to others out side of my little circle. Some people would be happy to live soley for each other and forget the rest of humanity. I can not.

I would like some day to have a relationship with someone who will let me live my life volunteering, working and at the end of the day come home to him a happy, fulfilled, human being. It would be even better if his heart was into making the world a better place. : )
I believe that two people can be together and that having a seperate life where they are allowed to do what fulfills them can make for a great relationship.

I have also wondered if that is even possible to attain for myself. With the relationships I have been in, I have yet to find that. The men I meet seem to want to tie themselves to me yet remained
unable to accept me as I am or worse yet, they don't support me. I am an eccentric,weird bird. I know. I accept that. Perhaps I am not wife material? I have thought this many times after my breakup. It's one of the reasons I am not dating right now.

Is it possible to be both, I think so. Is it attainable, I have faith that it is. If it never happens for me, will I be devastated and regret my life? No, never!

you know, i bet all of the males on this forum like you

Wow. You sound awesome.
Do you wanna get married? Like right now? I can go get some rings out of the vending machine


At any rate...I have friends, but I don't really go out and do things a whole lot besides work. But a girl recently started taking an interest in me.

It also bears mentioning though that she, also, does not get out as much as she'd like to.

Naleena Wrote:

I believe it is possible to be autonomous AND have a healthy relationship. It's good when two people can respect each other as seperate entities. Nothing is more wearing to me than someone
who expects my every waking moment to be devoted to "us."
While I recognize the impotance of a mate and their needs/feelings (and do my best to be sensitive to that within reason) I also feel a responsibility to others out side of my little circle. Some people would be happy to live soley for each other and forget the rest of humanity. I can not.

I would like some day to have a relationship with someone who will let me live my life volunteering, working and at the end of the day come home to him a happy, fulfilled, human being. It would be even better if his heart was into making the world a better place. : )
I believe that two people can be together and that having a seperate life where they are allowed to do what fulfills them can make for a great relationship.

I have also wondered if that is even possible to attain for myself. With the relationships I have been in, I have yet to find that. The men I meet seem to want to tie themselves to me yet remained
unable to accept me as I am or worse yet, they don't support me. I am an eccentric,weird bird. I know. I accept that. Perhaps I am not wife material? I have thought this many times after my breakup. It's one of the reasons I am not dating right now.

Is it possible to be both, I think so. Is it attainable, I have faith that it is. If it never happens for me, will I be devastated and regret my life? No, never!

you know, i bet all of the males on this forum like you

They sure should do - I know I do. nal has tried to help me in the past.

I'd donate a kidney to have a woman like her

i rather be a loner and in a relationship . than on my own.
atleast then got something to open ur heart about to ur partner

Still don't get it....How can someone be lonely being in relationship, unless he/she/they don't attractive to he/she/each other. And why do you need such relationship anyway ?

No, because if you're in a relationship you're not a loner. A real loner's only partner is his/her loneliness.

not true, you can be lonely in a relationship......

although all us loners out there would be immensly envious of anyone who says he/she is lonely but in a relationship... and it sounds greedy/selfish/whiny to me.

I think it can be wires when your in a relationship and you feel lonely. I am lonely but its kinder obverse ,probably to any on looker. But if you appear to be happy and constant and in a loving relationships and you feel lonely. Would be moor difficult to expect ppl to understand. But relationships can become distant. Then your lonely why living with someone that doesn't understand you are even try to. That I think could be a weirs feeling.

Will anyone here give me answer on my question ?

How can someone be lonely being in relationship, unless he/she/they don't attractive to he/she/each other. And why do you need such relationship anyway ?