andrew.1
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Basic Info:
Age: 25
Hair: Blonde
Eyes: Blue
Weight: 140lbs
Height: 5' 11"
Body Type: Athletic
Interests:
Adventure, Astronomy, Art, philosophy, Science, Boating, swimming, playing floor hockey, playing basketball, hiking, video games, politics, activism, Public service, helping people, Karate, Education, working out, Eating healthy, etc
Music: Hip hop, Rock, soundtracks, classical, etc (love music)
Movies: Sci-fi, fantasy, drama, comedies, documentaries, etc (love movies)
TV: Impact Wrestling, Family Guy, Robot chicken, Judge Judy, Pawn stars, Storage wars, etc
Current status: Going to University
What I am looking for: Close friendships, a relationship
I am not looking for sympathy, just a better understanding of how to solve my situation.
I have always been very independent and I have never really had a lot of friends. The friends I have are misfits and are unreliable.
I never really had a youth because I was bullied and excluded for almost 10 years. I spent most of the those years defending myself against attackers and I didn't have many opportunities to progress my social skills or flirting skills.
I was desperate for somewhere to turn and I ended up joining a karate school which was the only positive environment for me at the time. I was shocked that such a positive environment could exist. It turned me around and they taught me how to fight and have confidence and respect for myself. I have been doing it off and on for 8 years.
After high school I have spent several years trying to reverse the affects that this has had on me and I am still working hard at it. Sometimes I can appear boring or awkward depending on the crowd, but I am still working at it.
I can see that a lot of people have adopted a cynical attitude which I don't blame them. Sometimes I feel the same way. It often feels that goals and dreams are impossible to reach.
Things are coming around slowly for me and only because I am working hard to get those opportunities.
I have always wanted a good group of close friends that do everything together and the last time i had that was Grade 4.
I have also never been in a relationship before and flirting with women has been very challenging. Often the women I like, don't like me.
I have asked many girls out with little success.
One girl I asked out, but she had a bf and she said we could be friends. After two months, her bf didn't want her hanging out with me and I was scared that I would lose her friendship. She said she would hang out with me at school, but not elsewhere and I was offended by it. I was so worried about it, I told her it was ridiculous. She didn't like that I challenged her bf and she refused to talk to me again.
Although to many it may not have been a big deal, to me it was like a piece of me gone. I had worked hard gain that friendship and we became close friends during the two months.
Anyways that's just one example of the "3 steps forward, 2 steps back" that I deal with regularly.
I love life and I only want what's better for myself. I enjoy being around people.
Anyways, I am here to get a better understanding of my situation and talk to people that have had similar experiences and maybe make some friends too.
Remember that it's not impossible to achieve your dreams, you just have to work your ass off for it.
Age: 25
Hair: Blonde
Eyes: Blue
Weight: 140lbs
Height: 5' 11"
Body Type: Athletic
Interests:
Adventure, Astronomy, Art, philosophy, Science, Boating, swimming, playing floor hockey, playing basketball, hiking, video games, politics, activism, Public service, helping people, Karate, Education, working out, Eating healthy, etc
Music: Hip hop, Rock, soundtracks, classical, etc (love music)
Movies: Sci-fi, fantasy, drama, comedies, documentaries, etc (love movies)
TV: Impact Wrestling, Family Guy, Robot chicken, Judge Judy, Pawn stars, Storage wars, etc
Current status: Going to University
What I am looking for: Close friendships, a relationship
I am not looking for sympathy, just a better understanding of how to solve my situation.
I have always been very independent and I have never really had a lot of friends. The friends I have are misfits and are unreliable.
I never really had a youth because I was bullied and excluded for almost 10 years. I spent most of the those years defending myself against attackers and I didn't have many opportunities to progress my social skills or flirting skills.
I was desperate for somewhere to turn and I ended up joining a karate school which was the only positive environment for me at the time. I was shocked that such a positive environment could exist. It turned me around and they taught me how to fight and have confidence and respect for myself. I have been doing it off and on for 8 years.
After high school I have spent several years trying to reverse the affects that this has had on me and I am still working hard at it. Sometimes I can appear boring or awkward depending on the crowd, but I am still working at it.
I can see that a lot of people have adopted a cynical attitude which I don't blame them. Sometimes I feel the same way. It often feels that goals and dreams are impossible to reach.
Things are coming around slowly for me and only because I am working hard to get those opportunities.
I have always wanted a good group of close friends that do everything together and the last time i had that was Grade 4.
I have also never been in a relationship before and flirting with women has been very challenging. Often the women I like, don't like me.
I have asked many girls out with little success.
One girl I asked out, but she had a bf and she said we could be friends. After two months, her bf didn't want her hanging out with me and I was scared that I would lose her friendship. She said she would hang out with me at school, but not elsewhere and I was offended by it. I was so worried about it, I told her it was ridiculous. She didn't like that I challenged her bf and she refused to talk to me again.
Although to many it may not have been a big deal, to me it was like a piece of me gone. I had worked hard gain that friendship and we became close friends during the two months.
Anyways that's just one example of the "3 steps forward, 2 steps back" that I deal with regularly.
I love life and I only want what's better for myself. I enjoy being around people.
Anyways, I am here to get a better understanding of my situation and talk to people that have had similar experiences and maybe make some friends too.
Remember that it's not impossible to achieve your dreams, you just have to work your ass off for it.