Recent content by ohcalidatex

I had to smile reading your post and many of the answers. You are an introvert alright! Welcome to the club. :) I am 51 years old and have gone through 2 marriages so would think I'd have some insight to offer but I'm afraid I don't. The key is finding someone (introvert or extrovert) who...

That could well be true. I have an aunt in Canada who is a counselor and a self-described loner. She said her husband is an extrovert but he understands her and gives her the space she needs. He has his clubs and outside activities that he enjoys without her. The key is that he accepts and...

I have not finished the book so I may disagree with some things by the end. Still I find that in my case I can connect with others but only in small doses. I just don't like connecting for long enough periods to make a relationship work. Since I have been this way seemingly my entire life it is...

I am sure there are many on this site that are truly lonely and I don't mean for a moment to discount their loneliness. I am going to share something that has been a personal revelation to me and explains what I think is loneliness at times for me but really is not. I've been reading an amazing...

I can relate although I attend a large church that I know has plenty of singles. Still I go alone, sit alone, and leave as soon as the service ends. I know I would never make small talk with anyone after the service so why stay and waste time? If you want to serve then talk to an elder and see...

I know we are all different but for me I have to be able to be happy on my own first and foremost. Relationships can add to your happiness and deepen it but if you cannot be happy in yourself you will become very needy and dependent on others for your happiness. I find that my online contact...

You're welcome.

Hi, got on here out of curiosity. I am 51 and almost divorced for the second time. My first marriage lasted 19 years and produced 3 wonderful children but was a horribly dysfunctional marriage due to issues my ex-wife had. Two years after we divorced I met a woman in another state and thought I...