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How about just adjusting your expectations, now that you have new beliefs? You were expecting a better world, and better people, it's normal you'd feel disappointed now that you know your expectations weren't true. From experience, I can tell you that... 1. People care about themselves, and...

Yes, this is the response I usually hear from people who give meetup.com a fair try. Congrats!

No one should be alone. You can learn new social habits, stick to them, and start getting the results you want. The old habits are always hard to break from - that's true. What you can do is change something in the environment to help ease off the transition: move, redecorate, go out to new...

I've heard many stories like this after recommending meetup to people. And I gladly continue to recommend it as one option for meeting new people. Congratulations! :) - Paul

Hello, Just put an extensive guide to making friends, online. It's completely free, you can read it here: https://getthefriendsyouwant.com/how-to-make-friends-a-12-step-guide/ I hope it's okay for me to post here - would appreciate you guys' feedback. Thank you, - Paul Sanders

That cycle is what I call the loneliness trap. You have to break out of it.

Well, this seems obvious; he's over 50 and doesn't give a **** about being appropriate. You shouldn't be bothered about it, shrug it off and move on. I would respond to that question by smiling and saying "Well, I don't know... life! I guess." No, you never get questions like that because...

Three rules of thumb: - Don't show that it's affecting you, unless they're old friends. - The less available they are, the less often to suggest plans. - Talk to them without suggesting to meet, from time to time.

Alcohol reduces your inhibitions. And when that's done, you can actually socialize. Congratulations, you now know that "you have it in you." You also now realize that your fears and worries aren't a 100% legit; now that you have evidence that you can be social. The next step would naturally...