One thing that really bugs me about having a solitary lifestyle is that it tends to interfere in things that wouldn't be a problem for most people.

I'm planning a cross-country move in a couple weeks, and I have no one to help me. I'd hoped I'd be able to convince someone in my family to come help, but even offering to buy them train tickets both ways didn't seem to cut it. So now I'm left moving alone.

The price of a rental truck and gas is going to be super high, and I can't justify hiring movers to help me because they're so expensive, and I don't have a job right now. Anyway what this means is that I'm left packing up a moving truck and unloading it all by myself. I can't think of any way to do this without getting rid of all my possessions that I can't carry up a flight of stairs alone. So that means goodbye couch, big chairs, etc. Today I dragged my mattress around my house as a test, and that went ok, so at least I'll be able to keep that.

Sorry this is so negative. I guess I'm just in a lousy mood.

I totally agree with you. Moving is one of those things.

I had a medical 'thing' the other week in which they would not let me leave without bringing someone to drive me home afterwards and stay with me for the next 24 hours, i guess to make sure there wasn't any problems.

While i could lie and say someone was staying, producing a driver would be more difficult to fake. I did luck out.

You are right, some things that would be no problem for most people just don't work on your own.

Unfortunately today's lifestyle doesnt allow us to do anything independently, nearly everything has to be done with somebody which makes our existence a lil more painfull...I couldnt blame you for being negative, moving is a pretty big step and having somebody to do it with you is really a blessing.

oh God Elaeagnus that ent good no. I have no clue how I would be if I was you. Well I can not carry heavy things cos of the back so I would be even moor scrod then you.

I bet on the day you well be amazing. After all its only going to take a day right? I have moved on my own a few times. Never to few away and I did have my mum and dad to help so I have been lucky. But still yea when there is only you everything cost double. I mean the van uses the same gas and the rental is the same if one person is using it or two. It is expense when you move anyway. But when your on ye own and NO JOB! well ye I can see why you cert afford rentol men. I have a thought. Is there any big kids say 14 or 15 year olds that you know and trust. This age group normally always are delighted to work and for cheap? Well you would still have the same problem when you get to the other sighed. But at lest that would be of help on this sighed. Good luck with the move anyway.

This post was last modified: 06-03-2008 05:25 PM by Bluey.

If you are going to end up moving by yourself, make yourself a plan to make it as easy as possible, maybe go and buy a two wheel trolley and pack as much as you can into card board boxes and use the trolley to move them. Maybe there is a neighbour or someone you could ask to help you, even if you offer to pay them a few dollars. Also if you end up hiring a van, see if you can get one with an electric lift tail gate, they sure beat lifting heavy items into the van.

Thanks for the support everyone! I'm not too worried about packing up the moving truck, but the unloading is going to be a real pain. The place I'm moving into is on the third floor (no elevator), so even things that I can move on my own, like my bookshelves, will be pretty annoying to move in. I also have a lot of stuff. I've had a two-bedroom house for the past few years, and I've definitely accumulated lots during that time. Most of it's books and cooking stuff, and that can be easily fit into boxes.

I'm also not looking forward to the 12 hour drive. I think I'll have to split it up into two days because I'm not sure I can drive that long.

Oh well. I'm going to post some ads on craigslist and stuff to see if I can get rid of my couch, chairs, and desk. I think I should be able to move everything else on my own. Cross your fingers for me though!

I can sympathise - I had to move into a first floor flat last year, and had to lug a wardrobe, washing machine, chairs, TV, bed etc up the stairs on my own. Luckily I'm pretty big, but it was still tiring. Then I had my son help me with a multitude of cardboard boxes, which was a teriffic help.

You know this thread totally makes me sad. I think cos I can really sympathise with it. If I had to move without help I would be totally screwed.

What is wrong with the world when we can not even get a little help on matters like this

I am very lucky in that I would have my mum and dad to help me or I would have to whit tell I could afford the removal men. I think the best advice here is to do what Blue Sky said and get yourself some kinder trolley. I would hope that a neighbor would see you struggling and offer to help. But ppl a lot of the time are to busy with there own little world a lot of the time to even notice.

This post was last modified: 06-06-2008 06:12 PM by Bluey.

Maybe you could hire some people who can help you? I have no idea what that would cost, but it's definitely the easiest solution. If not, take Blue Sky's advice and make a plan. Structure is good, and you don't have to stress and risk any accidents. I'm sure if you knock on some doors at your new place and introduce yourself, you can find someone to help you, at least with the heavy stuff. Why would people turn down a new neighbor in distress? No hamn in asking.

Move to Sweden instead. I can help you out! ^^

All the men I know are telling me to do just what you said Jeremi- knock on doors in my new building and ask for help. But it seems really dangerous to me. I'm a young, single woman moving to one of the biggest cities in the US. Going around asking for help lets everybody know I'm completely alone in a new place with nobody to watch out for me. Seems like a really easy way to make myself a victim.

Anyway, I got rid of my couch, chairs, and desk. So now I should be able to move all my stuff by myself. It's going to be long and hard work, but on the bright side, it'll be really good exercise!