Hello there ,
I used to be shy as a child , but i dont think ive REALLY been shy for the past 4-5 years. And the incident your talking about, well its happened about a million times to me and about a millions times to alot of other 'non-lonely' people as well infront of my eyes. Dont take what that person did too personally. Some ppl are just rude and arrogant and they think just coz they know somebody/are somebody/ etc , they have all the right to ignore you. Well this is nothing. Just keep being friendly and eventually ull find some people who are not tards. Actually, think of that person/people who did that to you as the losers, who think theyre better than every1 else but are actually the suck ups who suck balls just to get noticed. There are alot of people in my school who do that , and quite honestly i pity them. They may not be half as lonely as i am, but at least i dont get invited to places/to do stuff just because i can give them transportation/give them money/kiss their asses.

I know this kinda "rejection" can be painful at first, but trust me , not alot of people are like this. And those who are are just some dumb idiots trying to make themselves better.

Im not really shy with ppl, only with girls since ive never had a gf or even a friend who's a girl. Otherwise im not really shy.

Hope i encouraged you a bit dude, just hang in there

meh sometimes being shy can be a good thing I think its kindof cute
im probably more likely to go out with somone whos shy then someone who isnt
Why? because some people actually find it attractive

So if your shy you shouldnt hate it or be ashamed of it Some times its a good thing

This post was last modified: 04-26-2008 12:35 AM by Hijacc.

meh sometimes being shy can be a good thing I think its kindof cute
im probably more likely to go out with somone whos shy then someone who isnt
Why? because some people actually find it attractive

So if your shy you shouldnt hate it or be ashamed of it Some times its a good thing

I agree with you, I think shyness in a girl is cute, as long as they smile at you sometimes. Of course if they are too shy then nothing ever happens. I've gone out with both shy types and outgoing types, but as I am shy it is easier for my to relate if their personality is similar.

although i think shyness IS in a way cute...but really its not something I think should becomme a part of ur life forever...

I don't think I'm shy. I'm very outgoing and talkative when I'm with other people, and I have no problem with public speaking or talking to strangers. But I never actively seek out social situations or people, so I end up alone most of the time. There are definitely lots of other explanations for loneliness other than shyness.

I think shyness is a plus in my book if a girl is shy it makes her more approachable and reminds me that I'm not the only one scared out of my ever loving mind talking to someone

Yeah, sometimes really extrovert people will try and talk to you out of the blue and you just get so scared you shut down completely. I know it wasn't always like this but you just can't shake it. So shyness really makes a person less intimidating, though I've been told that to loud people being around us when we shut down is really uncomfortable, so they just start being even louder.

Gah! Damnable positive feedback loops!

Yep, I'm a Leo so I'm naturally outgoing. But when I talk to people I always FAIL. I just say stuff that's really like... awkward, or cynical, or sadistic... When I try to be 'affectionate' toward people, I talk a lot, but I also appear very idiotic like a puppy (that's not cute) or something. That doesn't really help because they don't reciprocate and I just look, and feel, like a fool. I think to make a friend, you have to be ON their level. But when I act like that, I place myself under them... so that doesn't work. :/ But, yeah. I don't usually talk much (and I bet I look like an uptight square) and that deters people, but talking deters them as well-- probably more. I just can't win. -_-

im an outgoing, sociable person who makes friends very easily but i don't really feel any kind of connection with any other human being.

HAY! That's me!

I am just like that. Well I do have to rest physically but I am a mentally outgoing person. I to do strongly to connect to ppl.

If I force my self to get on with ppl I can IRL but most of the time I just don't see that the person am trying to connect with has worth it as they normally not the sort of person I wont as a friend. If any of that makes sense.

BTW welcome here