In your case, maybe ADHD instead of ADD. I know that I have ADD and it suck.

I agree with Crew. It boils down to being insecure with oneself, not feeling comfortable, and, although it's a hard truth, an over emphasis on thoughts to with oneself. BUT, the very first step must be to try to like yourself, to love yourself even, and be kind to yourself. You have to be at peace with yourself before you are at peace with others.

I can also recommend a book about unwanted thoughts called "White Bears and Other Unwanted Thoughts". The basic premise being that attempts to stop thoughts from recurring will only make them come back harder and stronger than before. I can definitely vouch for the effectiveness of the counter proposal.

I am a very insecure person and i worry a lot about people liking me.

The worst part about these thoughts that I also have is it's like. I don't try to think about these things.

But I'll dwell on things for 5 minutes before I even realize I'm doing it. Like I'm subcounsciously doing it.

Hopefully when we get older we care less and less what people think. Im looking for running around old a nude and no one being able to do anything about it because I am old!

haha, thats funnny
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I hope so too.

What exactly is a negative thought?

Can you just try to think constructive things and if it isn't constructive then think of something else? Personally I think it's good to know the good and bad side of things. Like when people say the glass is half empty. Actually in all reality the glass is both half full and half empty both at the same time.

I know exactly how you feel, and it looks like by reading these replies I'm not the only one.

For me I get the thoughts as you do but I also get images of horrible things which I have had to see. At times these thoughts and images can become become so bad that they are almost crippling. As with blue sky this does not happen all the time, but when it does it never is pleasant.

I fully agree with everyone who has said that we must learn to love and appreciate ourselves before we can do the same to others.

I also have to say that everyone on this forum is so good with words and seem to know exactly how to explain feelings, far better then I ever could which is why I don't really post much because I feel that others can say how I feel so much better and I can take some comfort in just reading the posts here, and I'm sory if that is a bit selfish and I will try post more in the future thank you to everyone that has ever posted here
Oh and sory for babbling on a bit, just one of those nights.

I tend to overthink what people say, even inane little actions have me trying to delve into a possible deeper meaning for it. I get paranoid and takes things too far and since Im left to myself all day all can do is be introspective....which is not healthy in my case. I cant help very much but I know how you feel. It sucks to be aware of my disorders

I appreciate how you feel. I have just had a strange couple of days where my plans have been changed at the last minute due to my partner and her daughter being ill. This has sent me into such a despair that I find it impossible to think of anything else other than the negatives and the worst case scenarios.

I think that the sadness with have had in our lives builds up over time and then we doubt ourselves and our abilities to rise above this.

Hey Bluesky, it sounds like you have similar issues to myself, I've been seeing a counsellor for a while and CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) has helped me a lot.

Using an example from my life (to day in fact): I found out the girl at work I have a major crush on has a bf. I instantly leap to anxiety and depression because of thoughts that this means I'll be alone forever and no woman could eve love me.

Now, on reflection, that's not the most stable response and CBT techniques are helping me adress my faulty thought processes... it's a skill and I've been working on it for a few years and I'm still stuggling but it get easier and easier.

You said you were seeing a counsellor? Ask them, maybe they can give you an pinion if it suit you... I;m reticent to say it'll help for everyone but it's helped me out