I didn't really know where to put this topic, it doesn't fit into the loneliness section. Anyway, all of my life I have suffered from thoughts that can become quite obsessive and make me very depressed. These thoughts can range from, wrong things I may have said to people, what other people think of me, confidence at completing work tasks, to projecting negative things that could happen to me in the future. Once I start thinking some of these negative things I can really dwell on them and this can go on for weeks. I would like to know if anyone else on the forum has ever had negative obsessive thoughts that they can't seem to stop. And if you have managed to stop them, how did you do it?

Blue Sky

Oh dear...this is really hard. Basically, if I start obsessing over something I feel as though I am completely helpless to change it. To get over it it requires a massive effort on my part to stop myself from doing/thinking whatever I have become obsessed with. Usually I try to find something else to focus on and dedicate all my energy into. Being conscious of what I'm thinking/feeling and being able to tell myself 'stop' helps too. I also think of someone in my life who is strong and imagine what they would do in my situation. Also, if a particular place or activity acts as a starting points to negative thinking, I avoid that place/activity like nothing else.

It is possible but it takes a lot of concentrated effort....kind of like rewiring the way you think/beating your demons into submission.

i dunno if this is the same but when i do something stupid i get really annoyed when i think about it im like want to scream or something, i dwell on it much that it really messes me up. i just try not to think about it much people will forget about it too in a long run. though im not sure if thats the same as what ur saying.

Well with me, many different things that happen can make me start to worry and obsess, maybe my brain is just wired up that way and starts to go 100 mph when negative things happen to me lol.

Hi Blue Sky,

I've missed talking with you! Do the thoughts get you to the point where you can't function or you find your daily life getting "distracted" by the thoughts? I'm not thinking so much in terms of depression, needing antidepresants, but if your brain is going too fast with this distraction, have you considered ADD?

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Hi Blue Sky,

I've missed talking with you! Do the thoughts get you to the point where you can't function or you find your daily life getting "distracted" by the thoughts? I'm not thinking so much in terms of depression, needing antidepresants, but if your brain is going too fast with this distraction, have you considered ADD?

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Hi Teach
I wouldn't say it gets to the point where I can't function but it really can distract my thoughts and daily life, and in the past maybe I used alcohol to combat these thoughts and make myself comfortably numb.
I have never thought of ADD and don't know anything about it, I might have a chat to my counselor about it.

This post was last modified: 09-09-2007 08:10 AM by Blue Sky.

Glad to hear that alcohol isn't your vice now. That takes a lot of guts. Your counselor should tell you there are three types of ADD: ADHD, the hyper, then there is ADD type I: spontaneous, and ADD type 2: distracted. I would swing more toward the type 2, if at all. The distracted has your brain basically working overtime, different thoughts different actions, etc, and you feel overwhelmed and hard to concentrate on what you need to. You're not hyper (ADHD), but you aren't paying attention, sometimes drifting, can't concentrate because your brain is focusing on other things.

Oh yes, I can relate to the type 2, though it doesn't happen all the time, I can go for months and be ok. But when the worrying and the negativity sets in, I'm really affected. Yes I must fianally do something about this, it's gone on for to long in my life.

I think it comes from how we feel about ourselves and our need to please other people in order to feel loved. If we were secure we wouldn't obsses about these things, but being conscious about how we really feel inside makes us feel paranoid about how others see us. So when we talk to someone, we start to worry if they could see through us..It's like were always trying hard to hide something that makes it obvious to other people something's not right with us and we can feel the same vibe from them about how they might perceive us. It's like our mind plays tricks on us about what others think and we want so much to figure it out that we become obbsessed with it. We analyze over every little detail just to have some peace of mind that someone likes us or doesn't think we're weird. I think it's how we judge ourselves and it scares us and we obbsess too much cause we want everything to be perfect and when it's not we beat ourselves up and obbsess over things even more. There's gotta a threshold effect though that'll just get rid of the obbssesiveness... once your numb and have been through so much it's like nothing can touch you anymore..Hope one day i'll feel that way.