Today in the paper there was an article that reported that mean people, especially girls, are likely to be more popular. I think that was true to an extent at my school. After highschool I don't think that really counts. It's probably all based on confidence after that.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/main.jht...ean106.xml

well people who are more attractive get talked to more because of their looks but its their personality that makes the friends stay, and if they are only staying for their money, the people aren't really their friends are they?

Its not there looks that gets them heaps of friends, its there confidence. someone that looks nice would have good confidence in themself, where as not so pretty people have no confidence. you dont have to be the hottest person, just pretend you are lol.

What you look like doesnt matter, its who you are inside, tho if you never put yourself out there people will never see the inner you.

This is true but I would say its easier to get confidence when your drop dead Georges. I have seen what some women get based Solly on there looks.

i dont hate ppl who have friends because of theirr looks, what r they supposed to do? I just feel its unfair for ppl who arent 'beautiful' to suffer loneliness because of it.

If looks would equal friends then I wouldn't have any friends at all. When it comes to friends looks don't mean anything to me, aslong the person is someone I enjoy spending lot time with then it is all that matters. When it comes to a relationship though looks gain some importance because I don't think one can have healthy and fullfilling relationship without mutual physical attraction. But as the saying goes ”Love makes you blind”. When you like someone due to who they are you won't see the ”flaws” of his or her appearence.

In all honesty though I tend to look down somewhat the popular crowd. They tend to be shallow, (yes I know I am being just as bad ) and have other life values so different from mine that I wouldn't be able to be friends with them. I would just get highly annoyed if I would try. They probably dislike me too as much, but I couldn't care less aslong they keep it to themselves like I do.

I haven't been bullied due to my looks since I came to high school, but when I was in junior high school I was called fatass and other variations of the insult. The one that hurt me most was being called apeman though as it insulted my other qualities than my looks aswell. If people would still laugh/insult me for looking what I look like I would probably just laugh back for their lack of social skills and inability for humane behavior. Luckily I have been spared from this.

I agree with you seekingpeace, I was just saying that I think its easier to get confidence when you are good looking. But ye I totally agree with you.

I would not call you shallow Frostburn cos you look down on them. I know the kinder ppl you mean and most of them sort are normally all like am "IT" kinder attitude. Well just as long as you did give them a chance first. I mean most ppl have something deeper about them self then what first come across.

I was nicknamed monkey magic when I was in junior school. And FA-cup cos I got big ears lol well there not that big but ppl make out there are hah I just laugh that sort of thing of now. But I guss maybe if I was perfect looking like some of the other kids back then I would had probably had more friends. well no one is perfect looking but you get me. I do walk with a limp and I have had kids say that there not hanging with a spake as well. That was in seiner school. So I do think looks make a difference to some degree. Also its been proven that if your tall and good looking you are moor libel to do better in your career then if you where not tall and good looking.

Don't look at physical appearance as a give-in for confidence. I know lots of pretty girls who are insecure. Confidence stems from one's own desire to take a piece of the world for themselves, whether it's friends in high school, a high-paying job, whatever. You have to think in terms of "I deserve whatever the fuck I want, because I'm the shit." Simply decide why you're the shit, decide what you deserve and if you do it right, confidence will follow.

That may be all true but If I was normal or good looking, I would not have been beaten up by pretty much everybody, and I also wouldn't have suffer from social anxiety, and I wouldn't be this miserable and lonely.

I have a low self esteem and i've been told my many people that im gorgeous, and i've been told by others that i look like a rabbit, so you get the picture, i dont feel pretty though.
But the "good looking=more friends" is not a rule, confidence is what matters.