I don't think I could agree with this. Many customers while I'm working tells me I'm pretty and ask me whether I was popular. But in reality, I don't have a single friend *looks at her empty phone list*, even if I'm friendly. Sure I may put a little effort in the way I dress and I do have some sort of low self-esteem, that's why I try to dress up to feel more confident. But.. I tend to feel down when I see a group of friends laughing, enjoying their time. -_-;; I think it all comes down to attitudes and personality. In my opinion, popular people consist of people who love attention, brag, gossip, loud, they attract people cause their personality shines out very confidently. As for me, I'm just a timid little girl.

The group from my school was like that. Then that group became larger, thus mine becoming smaller. I became pretty fucked off. The end.

Interestingly, people remark that they cannot trust or let people in that much, yet complain about larger groups who obviously have. I guess you have to put your neck on the line to be one of those popular people, you usually find half the world loves them -and the other half hates them unadulteratedly.

I have felt sad about not being a part of these sort of groups. Yet I was so much so on the cusp that I was invited out and about with these people once or twice. These sorts, as nice as they are, had no substance. The friends I eventually wound up with were all the strangest, yet most remarkable lot.

People who like people or even date them because of how they look are shallow and have no real feel for how "real" peoples feelings are hurt by that sort of thing.
I'd rather have a single friend who liked me the way i was over a huge circle of people who wanted to be my friend (but probably stabbed me in the back)becuase i look good out with them.

I dont want popularity just immunity to people messing with me.

I agree with you Hepcat <3
It really irks me when people just bully me cause of
what I look like or who I am. But I don't want to be
popular. I just want to be left alone and treated
normally. ^^

These types of beautiful people I find to be typically shallow. So I guess its best not to envy them. There was a beautiful girl one time who acted like she liked me. Me and her were like from two different worlds, she was from the popular/rich/goodlooking crowd. Even if she did truely like me I wouldn't let her. Because I thought it was just impossible that she would like ME. It was high school and I looked at everyone as people who wanted to play tricks on me and put me down. So in my mind I thought she was just acting that way around me to put on a show. So then she could pull away and laugh at me, and say I'm pathetic and could never get a girl like her. You know, I seen this happen to other ugly people before. I thought I had the upper hand in things if I expect everyones out to get me. That way they couldn't. I have no idea anymore if I'm ugly or not. Its impossible to get a true opinion of that. Cause if you ask someone ofcourse they'll try to be nice and say. "Nah you look fine" "Stop worrying about it" If you ever ask anyone if your ugly... Do you think they would say "yes you are" NO they would not!

It does seem like those in the world that have the good looks do tend to really have an edge over the rest, but in the end I think that a good personality will always pay off more as looks are so fleeting anyway.
People who depend on their looks alot I think usually wind up getting depressed later in life as they age and their looks start going.
I guess it is best to just be happy with who you are at what God gave you. I know that that is sometimes much easier said than done.
I am trying to do the same thing myself.

people tell me im good looking, and i have plenty of money, yet i don't have many close friends. I wouldn't say i'm a nasty person either, in fact i'd make sure anyone i was close to were ok before myself. However i've been plagued with loneliness all my life.

im good looking and i know people be nicer to me because of it. But im still lonely because i stopped going out and lost contact with all my friends except one.