I'm not sure how old you are, but if you're relatively young (under 25) then you'll probably start to gain weight naturally in a few years as your metabolism changes. Eating a bit more than usual in conjunction with some weight training may help a bit, if you haven't tried it.

At least you're tall. I'm only 5'9" and I have a thing for tall women as well. "Frustrating" just doesn't even begin to cover it.

Exactly, my older brother was like that growing up. Hated him for it because he was always the goodlooking skinny guy and I was the chubby one. Guess who has the bigger gut now

think someone said something about having problems keeping dow that protien stuff. Although I havent specifically used musclemilk all my friends recomend it and say its the best tasting of the protien shakes, I use another one that dosnt taste as good but is by no means bad (has less calories).

Besides that I find going to the gym is very helpfull with treating my depression. Dont focus on the other people that have been going there for a while because that can be discouraging, but tracking your progress will make you feel better about yourself. Also I find while im there I can forget about my problems or use them positivly to give me strength.

Anyways good luck man.

Well said,, There is aways going to be something about our bodies that we wont to change.

and amazingly a nuff the word"doable" is a word

How do you work out? You might be putting too much pressure on yourself to start with - while you can't radically change your body shape, I'm confident that if you eat right and focus a bit on working out, you can add some muscle mass to yourself. If not, you might have a health condition that you want to look into.

I think something you said, too, was very important and its awesome that you realize it, though you haven't quite applied it to yourself. You said that girls are looking for someone to protect them - cool. Well, muscle mass isn't the only way to do that; you could look into martial arts. Swordwork will particularly be to your advantage due to your height.

Often, we miss the forest for the trees and focus too much on the details. Most girls I know are looking for someone to make them feel secure and safe, but whether its done because you're big and huge, rich with bodyguards, or really smart and capable of talking your way out of trouble is of lesser importance.

PS: I would kill to have your body type.

Regards,
IO

This post was last modified: 01-17-2008 10:03 AM by IgnoredOne.

Yo-

I'm a scrawny guy and I will tell you how I managed to once gain weight. I didn't really eat breakfast, maybe a banana here and there. Lunch was mostly meats and pasta with a glass of milk. Make sure you're full. Have a mid-day snack, like a powerbar or something. Then work out at around 5 p.m., for an hour, starting with cardio (10 mins) and then weights (40 min). Cardio can be running at 6 mph or stairclimber (which is great for legs). Instead of cardio, you can also start with abs, which will be very important down the line since having strong abs is important to preventing back problems. Weight routine should change up every two weeks - first start with full body workout (pm me if you need to know more about this) to get your body warmed up, then super sets (two exercises of the same muscle group consecutively, to failure). Make sure once you've gotten used to working out that you're maxing out cause that will make the muscles bigger. After working out, drink a glass of milk with two cups of whey protein mixed in. Then after showering or whatever, wait about an hour to eat. For dinner, have a little bit of carbs, a salad, and eat a lot of chicken or beef or whatever meat you like to eat. Also have a glass of milk and water. Drink a lot of water continuously throughout the day as you don't want to get tired and dehydrated while you're working out. If drinking the protein shake dampens your hunger too much, then drink it before working out so that by the time you're done you have an appetite to eat dinner.

I did this continuously for a year and gained 15 lbs.

This post was last modified: 01-17-2008 11:13 AM by lonelyloser.

Yup, true.

Thanks LL
A full stomach is always better on the mind.
I could give it a try..I already do a little bit of running because it helps my insomnia. I actually have a (small) home gym so I don't have to worry about funny faces going to a gym or memberships. I take vitamins every day now so maybe I won't get sick this time around (though there's always 2-3 people sick at my job at any given time). I'll just have to figure out how to ban myself from online games.

One thing I'd prefer over swordfighting is fire poi. I'm still clumsy but it still looks awesome as long as I keep from burning most of my hair off. Whenever I rave /w glowsticks at parties I don't have much trouble getting girls' phone numbers, so if I could just learn fire poi...

This post was last modified: 01-17-2008 03:14 PM by snow.

This time last year I was in the exact same boat as you. I'm 5'11" and weighed around 135lbs. I went to the doctor for a blood test on the thyroid thing and nothing was wrong. Then my doctor suggested an anti-depressant with a side effect for gaining weight. Mirtazapine (or Remeron) I immediately gained about 20 - 25lbs and I bought some protein shakes and worked out and now I am far more confident with my body. I'm around 160lbs now.

Ask your doctor about Mirtazapine and dedicate your life to working out. Your arms will get bigger if you're taking in enough protein and working out extensively, just make sure you work on your legs too or you might end up with a body like Bob Sapp lol (Google him.) Drinking Red Bull helps to gain weight also. Maybe take up a martial art too, playing soccer is amazingly effective for leg strength and cardio.

Great advice, Shogun.

Do what Shogun says... few things are better at improving your self-esteem, and how women perceive you, then working out. If you think muscles are what the ladies want, then who are you to deny them?

Hey snow, if being skinny is the only thing that bothers you, I'd say you're pretty lucky. Personally, I'm perfectly okay with thin guys. What I cannot understand, where do people get that funny notion about women wanting a heap of muscles to protect them... from what exactly? It's not like we're in a constant danger of being attacked As far as the body types go, I'd never been a fan of bulging muscles, but I guess that's a matter of taste.

Ah but your coworkers likely do not have the same blessing (yeah I'd say it's a blessing rather than a curse), imagine having to worry about calories every time you catch the sight of that delicious aromatic heap of junk food, all the while engaging in a heated argument with yourself whether you should or shouldn't... well, you get my drift

Hey snow, if being skinny is the only thing that bothers you, I'd say you're pretty lucky. Personally, I'm perfectly okay with thin guys. What I cannot understand, where do people get that funny notion about women wanting a heap of muscles to protect them... from what exactly? It's not like we're in a constant danger of being attacked

Hahaha! Well said. I've wondered the same myself, but I think its the same thing about us guys having an eye for large busts and wide hips, even though most of us aren't exactly eager to be fathers. I suspect a lot of attraction is subconscious, so while women aren't in constant danger of being attacked anymore, there's a subconscious attraction toward fitness because of the past when fit men were better providers and protectors.

I think that a lot of women would agree with you - this is where men confuse their own tastes for female tastes. I do think that, generally, women prefer fit men, but not bulging muscles. Bulging muscles, though, is what we men find intimidating, impressive or worthy of respect. And we guys like projecting our beliefs upon others a lot.

All of this is a fairly moot point, ultimately. Studies show that women generally select for the best providers for steady relationships, and these days, that has more to do with prosperity than physical strength. One test showed that most women consistently selected well-dressed, physically unimpressive men over professional male models dressed in Mcdonald's uniforms with an 80% certainty.

Men are actually a lot more shallow in our selection, and that's probably why we project it on women as well. In the same above study, without any other information to work on, men consistently selected professional female models over ordinary women regardless of what they wore. And with 95% certainty.

Regards,
IO

This post was last modified: 02-19-2008 09:13 AM by IgnoredOne.