I hate being skinny. I've always been thin my whole life and think that's one reason why women don't like me. I'm 6' tall but still thinner than most guys and have really tiny arms. On top of it I'm really clumsy and just make things look really difficult when I try anything. I've tried working out but it never does anything and I just end up getting sick. Women seem to want a guy that can protect them not some twig, no matter how funny or interesting my personality is. What makes it worse is that I have a thing for tall women.

I keep trying to forget my insecurity about it but today I was eating my lunch in the breakroom. I had a nice mound of chinese food and my coworkers were sort of making fun of me since I eat so much but can't gain weight. =(

This post was last modified: 01-15-2008 01:17 PM by snow.

Have you checked to see if you have an over-active thyroid?

People do that to me to but I always saw them as just being jealous. Because I know I dont have an over active thyroid. I know I put a little more effort in a day, and I dont eat crap. The teasing may just be a bit of jealousy, which is expected. Being okay with who you are is hard though. However as a skinny guy I like being skinny. I never weighed over 145- and i normally way around 130 last i checked was like 4 years ago. And I am 6 feet to.

People have lots of obsession about their weight, but if you feel confident in your personality believe me being skinny isnt a problem. Granted I know the feeling of wanting muscle I never minded that I was a bit boney. So I can understand some of your problems, but as a person who has had those same jokes they havent hurt nearly as much as somethings to me. Which means we just have different fears I guess. But as one skinny guy to another its not a problem, with woman, because they have different tastes just like we do.

I had some friends who granted this was high school, but their was this skinny pale, sickly looking goth guy with a mow hawk and they were like omg hes so hot. And I was like wtf. He looks like he could die at any moment.

Collette- Thanks for the advice, I will ask the doc if I can find a good one. I'm terrified of doctors but if this is something that can be helped I'll do it.

frey- I usually weigh around 155 which isn't too far off normal but I still look smaller. At a party I was at the other day I was having a good time with all the girls then the hot one says to me out of the blue 'I don't like you. You are too skinny." Wtf!!
Though I should have said 'You are just making excuses for your self'!

Wish I had your problem growing up, mine was the opposite.

Not sure what your excersize routine was, but a common problem people have is trying to diet and gain muscle at the same time, its just not going to happen. To gain muscle you need calories, and mostly protien.

Id recomend going to a GNC and looking at something like "Muscle Milk" It will help you bulk up. As for your routine start out with a few minutes of cardio just to warm up, then hit the weights. Try focusing on a specific muscle group each day. Do as many reps as you can with a weight thats challenging for you.
Switch up your routine, dont do the same excersizes every day, and try and keep the day of the week you do a specific msucle group changing (its more efective that way).

Hope some of this info helps. Depending on what your diet is you may not need protien suppliments, I needed them because if I ate enough protien for my needs I usually ended up consuming too many calories and I never lost any weight. But your not trying to lose weight

mmmmm we have a lot in common snow, I'm also really skinny and love Chinese food and people always make jokes about how much I eat and don't gain weight. I love to eat an entire carton of pork fried rice, you know the large ones, and I eat all that in one go, just an example of how much I eat it's crazy I've weighed 110 lbs for like a year, sometimes it pisses me off to think I'm stuck at this weight 45 lbs below anywhere average for a 19 yr old 5' 9", with bones showing everywhere it's crazy.... Maybe I'll look into that over-active thyroid thing Collete mentioned, I don't recall ever being tested for that yet...As far as what sloth said with the proteins drinks and stuff, I personally can't keep them down they are vile to me maybe I just have a weak stomach though.

It does suck to be the smallest person around, I don't know if it's so much that women don't like skinny guys ,it's a matter of how it makes you feel thus how it makes you act, lowering self confidence because you think well, I'm just some freakishly skinny person she wouldn't go for me, when in reality like frey said about the goth guy, it's all about how you act and portray yourself.... and skinny guys can fit into places that no one would even have a chance of fitting, you need behind that oven cleaned, I'm on it, skinny guy away!!

I'm not sure how old you are, but if you're relatively young (under 25) then you'll probably start to gain weight naturally in a few years as your metabolism changes. Eating a bit more than usual in conjunction with some weight training may help a bit, if you haven't tried it.

At least you're tall. I'm only 5'9" and I have a thing for tall women as well. "Frustrating" just doesn't even begin to cover it.

Let me tell you dude that there is a lot of ppl out there that would wish they had that problem. I am the same as you in that I cert put weight on and always thought ad look a little better and feel a little better with a bit moor fat on. But I would rather be like this then someone who is fat and can not loss it. There is one thing I could not do and that is diet. My mum only had to look at a caret and she puts weight on.

You are 6 foot. Am like 5 foot 4 so better to be tall and skinny then small and skinny. To be honest my size is not a thing that has ever got to me in any big way. I can make up for that in other ways.

Am sure women don't care if your skinny are not. You are only young, Be for your done I would be willing to bet money that you well put weight on. I do see your point about a women wanting a man that's big and strong so he can look after her. The rugged look, Yea that's one thing I do not have.

keep on charming them and laughing with them and am sure you well real one in one of this days

Too fat. Too tall. Too short. Too skinny. Small tits. Big tits. Little penis. Big penis. It's all bullshit. Don't pay attention to what that girl said because she's shallow which means she's not happy with her looks.

You can be tall but have a small frame. If that's the case then you may only need to put on 10 or so lbs which is doable (is that a real word?) with whole foods, lean meats, and protein shakes.

Exactly colette!

It just shows hoe sad the world is gettin where everyone has to worry about how they look because now days everyone seems to judge on first apperances, not what is underneath