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Sorry to hear about your struggles on ALL, GizmonicScrewdriver. Perhaps taking a big step back from the forum would be the wiser course for you. This can be a very toxic environment. I speak from personal experience here.

Perhaps we should retitle the thread 'Maybe if I didn't use Facebook, I'd feel okay about myself'. It seems to have a unique ability to make already vulnerable people feel sad and ashamed.

Have you ever heard of free-form writing?  Basically, you sit and write whatever comes into your head, no matter how nonsensical or random, and then just keep at it until you develop a flow.  It sounds silly, but it does help with writer's block.  wallflower79's suggestion of using an image to...

As Rodent said, you can be the most self-sacrificing, generous friend and people will exploit that without shame because they think it's their due. I know it's very hard but being 'ghosted' isn't necessarily a reflection on you, it's just a part of the trial and error process that is modern...

I think many people do feel that social media is an integral part of their social lives now. Friendship is a lot of work and most people I know aren't really interested in putting the hours and face time into a friendship when they have jobs, relationships or whatever going on in their lives...

Hi there. Sex isn't a deal-breaker in a relationship but it is an important part of what makes a relationship tick.  There are some men out there who would be happy with a purely emotional, non-sexual connection rather than a combination of the two, but I think you'd have to really go looking...

Is this colleague a talker? If so, try to learn what gets them talking. Most people that age love talking about their families, hobbies, etc. You don't necessarily need to find common ground, just something that will fill the silence, and most people will happily talk about themselves if...

Another route in is being fluent in a business language. Do you speak French, German or Spanish, Emily?

I'm not in the field myself but I know quite a few people who are and I have a good friend who's a senior tech consultant in one of the big computer giants. The general consensus that I've gotten both from my friend and other acquaintances is that it's a very stressful job with a lot of big...

I can relate to all of it. That part about romanticising relationships, reconnecting with person, only to end up realising that it was a wasted effort? Oof, that was a punch to the gut.

Have you considered trauma counselling? I'm not sure what country you're in but where I live, there are quite a few charities that offer support to help former homeless people re-acclimate to mainstream life. You've gone through a prolonged trauma so I'm not surprised that you're still living...

For me, the friendships that have endured have been the ones where both parties are secure enough and level-headed enough, I suppose, that you don't have to spend a lot of time with them. You don't have to stay in constant contact, you don't have to make elaborate plans or grand gestures to...

I do think that timing and where you are in life are the main drivers, yes. I also think that most people do make those kinds of bonds too. Look at grade school, for instance. You're forming connections with people you're spending the majority of your time with for most of your childhood and...

I think it's often just being in the right place at the right time together, and it tends to fade away after a time unless you really work at it.

Would not speaking to them be an option for you? I didn't speak to my family for six years and I'm sorry that I ever let them back in to my life. I'm currently trying to push them back out again.

I'm sorry that this has been taken from you. People like us have so little solace in life, it's always a blow when you lose a source of comfort. :(

I'm really sorry this happened to you, Tiina. Some people are just born experts at passive-aggressive behaviour and low-key hostility. My eldest sister is the queen of the well-timed cutting remark and the subtle jab. Like that lady you were having difficulties with, she has a life I could...

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I believe that actual luck is a case of being in the right place at the right time. I sat the same entrance exam for a college course I wanted every year for the last five years and passed it every time, but I only got the course last year. What seemed to do the trick was ignoring the...

I'm not sure if it's seen as being strange but there are some people from the same strata as your co-workers who will treat you as some kind of inferior because you're unmarried, unattached and have no children. My eldest sister is like this. When a relative of ours was on their deathbed...