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I apologize to anyone who read my initial post. I will rephrase my thoughts at a later time when I'm not feeling so down.

Studies show that loneliness is bad for your health, though I can't provide you with any specific metrics off hand. Being in a happy, healthy relationship is generally better for you than being alone and miserable. If you're someone who doesn't feel miserable as a single person, then that might...

For me, loneliness is the inevitable result of the modern world. We used to live in cohesive collectives, now we are atomized - living alone in apartments where we suspect our neighbors, spending all day at work where every little word and action is mediated by political correctness, to such a...

Thanks to everyone who took the time to respond. I don't constantly feel sorry for myself, as my original post might suggest. I would say my good days outnumber my bad days. Best wishes to everyone this holiday season.

@ dd11 So I should evade the fact that I have a condition which impacts most of the things healthy people take for granted? i.e., sex, house work, the ability to carry groceries, etc? I don't frame it in my online dating profile as "oh woe is me." I frame it as "I have this condition and I have...

An addendum: I will say again that I relate a lot to what The SkaFish wrote. I feel that I am starved of intimacy more so than I am inherently lacking in something, although I do think my family upbringing and my DNA disposes me toward depression and anxiety. Although I fall into periods of self...

Much of what you say resonates with me. I think on the whole women do perceive neediness as weakness - a weakness that they themselves possess and therefore loathe. It's hard to paint in broad brushes in this day and age without someone accusing you of being sexist, but I'm going to do it...

Recently I have been feeling a pull inside to create visual art as a way of representing what I am going through lately - the unremitting sense of alienation and isolation brought on by living in a world gone mad with chronic pain. I used to create my identity by literally breaking my body down...

I don't have the luxury of thinking about whether or not I want to get married. I have a chronic illness that will get worse with time. It's imperative that I marry. But I have nothing in common with anyone. The future seems bleak

I have two issues, actually - chronic costochondritis (inflammation of the cartilage around my sternum) and disc disease/bulging disc at L5-S1. I can't even swim, which is what most people seem to do who have low back problems. The costo keeps me from doing anything that would use my chest...

I had such a promising start. I was on a path of personal development that combined both athleticism and intellectual pursuits. I was on track for a dream job. Because I had a vision for myself and the world around me, high quality women were drawn to me. They didn't come in droves - but I could...

Does any out there suffer from chronic neediness? Though I haven't plumbed the depths with a therapist (they seem mostly focused on the present), my theory is that my emotional needs were consistently neglected as a child. The end result is that I feel a perpetual emptiness inside and I feel...

You presume a lot about me by giving me your advice. Explore and discover? You don't know anything about me.

Can anyone out there relate? I loathe the bar scene. I find the pursuit of getting inebriated to be repugnant and I avoid being around people who drink at all costs. I suppose this is because I grew up with an alcoholic father and it killed my soul to watch the drink turn him into a bumbling...

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If you can afford it, look into cognitive behavior therapy or even medication. You can turn this kind of thing around. You just need to find the other misfits in town. And you need to realize that being a misfit is kind of a badge of honor in today's world. Seriously, what does it mean to be...

Could be worse man. You could be like me and have a physical ailment on top of all your emotional problems. If you're healthy and able-bodied, I say hit the gym. Lift some weights. Do it for yourself and nobody else. It could transform your life. I read a few earlier posts and see that you are...

This might be a long shot, but here it goes. I'm a 29 year old male. I'm a pretty hard core loner. I've been on my own now for about seven years, living by myself and chasing my ambitions. I've lived abroad, completed a Masters, and realized many of my goals. But my relationships have suffered...