Pheenix
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Hey, I have two questions. They do not fit together, but the first one can be answered matter of factly, and so I thought to stuff some more material into the thread.
1) I'm sort of confused on making friends. I seem to be concluding that I don't have that big of a problem with self-confidence, or social skills, or anything. So I think my problem is more simple.
I have always been trying to build an attractive personality and generally be well accepted by everyone. But it seems that there is just no way to actively be with everybody at once. So my question is, for the traditional way of "getting a social life", are you supposed to do as I thought, and be approachable and approaching to everyone, OR are you supposed to designate target friends, then make friends with them, then branch out to other friends and their friends, and etc.
Are you supposed to make specific friends and branch out, or are you supposed to try to make friends with everyone around equally?
2) No matter what, I will be working on being an approachable person who is nice to be around. I do know how to put on a smile and a glimpse in the eye, but I wonder if I can take this further. Do you guys know if its possible to take this to the extremes? To not just smile, but really be someone with a pleasant and magnetic personality? And where/how would you learn such a feat?
(And I do mean to have a nice aura, we're not talking social skills in general here)
1) I'm sort of confused on making friends. I seem to be concluding that I don't have that big of a problem with self-confidence, or social skills, or anything. So I think my problem is more simple.
I have always been trying to build an attractive personality and generally be well accepted by everyone. But it seems that there is just no way to actively be with everybody at once. So my question is, for the traditional way of "getting a social life", are you supposed to do as I thought, and be approachable and approaching to everyone, OR are you supposed to designate target friends, then make friends with them, then branch out to other friends and their friends, and etc.
Are you supposed to make specific friends and branch out, or are you supposed to try to make friends with everyone around equally?
2) No matter what, I will be working on being an approachable person who is nice to be around. I do know how to put on a smile and a glimpse in the eye, but I wonder if I can take this further. Do you guys know if its possible to take this to the extremes? To not just smile, but really be someone with a pleasant and magnetic personality? And where/how would you learn such a feat?
(And I do mean to have a nice aura, we're not talking social skills in general here)