How come "normal" people just make relationships so easily. I like to think I'm a pretty friendly person. When someone strikes up a conversation with me I reciprocate (although I'm not really one to start conversations). I'm considered a funny and charming person by coworkers/classmates (if somewhat shy and awkward at times). My counselor says I'm a good conversationalist.
So the question is, how the hell do some people seem to make friends and lovers so easily? It's like breathing to them. It just seems to happen. Like I'm in this class one time. I'm friendly with everybody. I get along well. But a few weeks later into the class, I hear them talking about how they are going out to do stuff with each other. I'm never invited. How the hell does this happen?
What could I be doing wrong? My current way of dealing with people is like this:
1. talk to people
2. be charming and funny
3. ????
4. PROFIT (i.e. new friend or partner)
Anybody know what step 3 is supposed to be?
So the question is, how the hell do some people seem to make friends and lovers so easily? It's like breathing to them. It just seems to happen. Like I'm in this class one time. I'm friendly with everybody. I get along well. But a few weeks later into the class, I hear them talking about how they are going out to do stuff with each other. I'm never invited. How the hell does this happen?
What could I be doing wrong? My current way of dealing with people is like this:
1. talk to people
2. be charming and funny
3. ????
4. PROFIT (i.e. new friend or partner)
Anybody know what step 3 is supposed to be?