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DFURY7

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Not pointing fingers at anyone in particular,just guys in general who are guilty of this. Since the explosion of social networking came about this has been a subject that has always annoyed me. Too many times I see some suckers going out of their way to make girls ego HUGE with comments,compliments,friend requests etc.

Its one thing to give a girl that you find attractive a compliment once in a while,but too many guys feed right into these attention seeking hoes online that post half naked pics knowing 150 guys will comment on it. These girls tend to have well over 1k friends and each pic they put up has some 50+ comments. Both parties at fault here this is true,girls should respect themselves more and be more humble...but how can you really blame them when these chump a$$ guys are showering them with fake attention and borderline worship.

Of course this is not a new phenomena,women have been worshiped by men since the dawn of time. However back then you at least had to leave your house and talk to the person in real life to give them a compliment or drool over them. And it used to be mostly celebrities that got that kind of attention,but thanks to social networks every decent looking girl with a camera can be the next Marlyn Monroe.

It has simply made these girls have massive egos and they become addicted to this kind of attention. If we as men would simply stop letting our hormones do the thinking we would have a lot more humble/down to earth girls like we did in the past. I know I have been guilty of doing this a few times but I quickly learned my lesson,and when I see girls that are only seeking attention I refuse to give it to them.
 
I agree with you.

Although this is not a gender specific issue. See any muscular man post half-naked shots, and a bunch of cute girls will comment on it.

It's more of a male problem, because we have higher sex drives. But it's not entirely a male issue.
 
I wanted to disagree with the OP.

But I can't.

It's friggin true.

My best advice doesn't solve the problem, it instead avoids it entirely:

Ignore these sorts of women and find a woman with the depth to not attention whore.

Consider their idiocy a free sort of self-pre-screening. Think about it. You don't even have to sort out the idiots anymore. They do it for you.

If these women knew the quality folks they were alienating by acting as though they are fifteen years old (as adults), they might think twice before acting so desperate and sadly insecure.
 
It may not be polite, but I can certainly see why one would be inclined to describe girls who show half-naked pictures of their bodies in the hopes that it will garner the most male sexual attention possible as "hoes".

Technically, "slut" would be closer though.

"Hoes" get paid for it.
 
I wish this guy would post more pics
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*drools*

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Him too. o___O

I <3 Beard Porn. Reddit.com/r/beardporn
 
Soph, you're into beardsters? :p

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But yeah, I never found those half-clad types attractive. I seldom swoon over anyone for precisely the reasons you mentioned.

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Her or no one for me (goo)

Actually, I generally find "types" more attractive than looks. I also like to say I judge a girl by her book's cover. If she owns a Vladimir Nabokov book, I'm sold!
 
flaneur said:
Soph, you're into beardsters? :p

hehe. :D well i certainly responded to their pictures.

So, if it's the right beard, then yes!

I DEMAND MOAR PICTURES!
 
Frito Bandito said:
It may not be polite, but I can certainly see why one would be inclined to describe girls who show half-naked pictures of their bodies in the hopes that it will garner the most male sexual attention possible as "hoes".

Technically, "slut" would be closer though.

"Hoes" get paid for it.

First of all women who express sexuality we find distasteful are not sluts/hoes. If you don't like women who do this or men who do this please avoid the behavior. Why you see fit to discourage women sexuality as if it benefits you. When you discourage women sexuality it hurts us all as it makes women harder to get to be sexual as they are ashamed of their own sexuality as it is seen as a bad thing to express.

Considering how little guys around here get sex it is clearly not in your best interest to go around calling women hoes, sluts, whores, or any other negative connotative word for women being sexual in any sort of manner. If you don't understand what I just said let me metaphorically put it in terms you can understand.

How would you like it if for having feelings and being lonely I called you a "faggot." You sure aren't being macho with your "feelings." So you must surely being a "fag." Not only have I invalidated your feelings, i have also attached a negative connotation to being homosexual(calling you a faggot is an insult to homosexuals by the way), and invalidated your own sexuality.

Women have to deal with this kind of negativity when they SHOW ANY sexuality. I just used the example to illustrate a point that you can probably relate to from your own perspective. The double standard of women sexuality needs to stop. I don't care if you have a problem with it when you perpetuate it we all lose out!

Frito I just decided to quote you, but my statements to everyone who used said terminology in regards to women who take said pictures.
 
ahgod

claptrap

we trying to hold women back

blah blah blah

stay in the kitchen *****

blah blah blah

jealous of sexuality and ignorant

blah blah blah

bear me children, cook and clean!


lol

Or could it be that we genuinely find that to be slutty behavior?

:p
 
I only called them hoes because they whore themselves out for attention. Instead of getting cash they are getting compensated with comments and friend requests. And as one person said this can go for both girls AND guys. I have seen guys do the same thing and it is equally pathetic.I work out at the gym almost every day and I keep myself fit,but I dont go out of my way to post half naked pics on my fb just to get attention. The main thing is that women are much less pathetic than guys when it comes to that sort of thing. Men giving women this kind of attention is much more common than the other way around.

And believe me Im not here to degrade women in any way. I love and respect women/men equally. In fact this entire post was aimed towards men for being suckers and giving these girls the attention in the first place, I even said who could blame them for it? Its like when women are called gold diggers for hooking up with a guy simply for his money....who can really blame her when the guy is too stupid/and blind to see that the girl doesn't truly care about him. Especially when you see the old farts riding around with 20 something model looking girls....you really think their in love with your personality man?

And its true all you can really do is avoid these type of people and not play into the problem. However this is a social forum to let out our thoughts and opinions,and this was one that has been on my mind for a long time. Theres only so much avoiding one person can do,spend 15 mins on fb and you will see at least 10 people pop up that fit the bill.
 
DFURY7 said:
I only called them hoes because they whore themselves out for attention. Instead of getting cash they are getting compensated with comments and friend requests. And as one person said this can go for both girls AND guys. I have seen guys do the same thing and it is equally pathetic.I work out at the gym almost every day and I keep myself fit,but I dont go out of my way to post half naked pics on my fb just to get attention. The main thing is that women are much less pathetic than guys when it comes to that sort of thing. Men giving women this kind of attention is much more common than the other way around.

And believe me Im not here to degrade women in any way. I love and respect women/men equally. In fact this entire post was aimed towards men for being suckers and giving these girls the attention in the first place, I even said who could blame them for it? Its like when women are called gold diggers for hooking up with a guy simply for his money....who can really blame her when the guy is too stupid/and blind to see that the girl doesn't truly care about him. Especially when you see the old farts riding around with 20 something model looking girls....you really think their in love with your personality man?

And its true all you can really do is avoid these type of people and not play into the problem. However this is a social forum to let out our thoughts and opinions,and this was one that has been on my mind for a long time. Theres only so much avoiding one person can do,spend 15 mins on fb and you will see at least 10 people pop up that fit the bill.

I unsubscribe from all my friends. My friends don't fall into that category it sounds like you need to do that.
 
Well, on FB, I certainly haven't seen pictures of these 'models in the making', showing off skin and such.

... Who does one friend to attain such photography? :D

Honestly, though, if anyone wants to show off, let them. It's their body, and it doesn't generally 'hurt' anyone.

I think anyone wants to feel 'pretty' and 'desirable', and if by showing a little skin, these people get that 'need' fulfilled, then all the more power to them. If they can say "Wow, so many people find me attractive! I feel great!", that's a good thing.

In my opinion, I believe if a person continuously shows off for attention, they can become addicted to it, which like any addiction isn't entirely healthy, and that's bad, but hey it's their life. Let them live it.
 
Who cares really. I'm sure none of the guys feedings the girls ego's are getting anywhere they'd like with said girls. People will post half naked pictures, people will make a scene, one girl a know a few days again "slipped" onto a tramway track as the tram was coming just to get the attention of a guy who no longer wanted to sleep with her (we were one big group waiting for the tram to go to a party), all this crap just for attention and validation. All it really shows is a lack of self esteem

 
DFURY7 said:
Not pointing fingers at anyone in particular,just guys in general who are guilty of this. Since the explosion of social networking came about this has been a subject that has always annoyed me. Too many times I see some suckers going out of their way to make girls ego HUGE with comments,compliments,friend requests etc.

Its one thing to give a girl that you find attractive a compliment once in a while,but too many guys feed right into these attention seeking hoes online that post half naked pics knowing 150 guys will comment on it. These girls tend to have well over 1k friends and each pic they put up has some 50+ comments. Both parties at fault here this is true,girls should respect themselves more and be more humble...but how can you really blame them when these chump a$$ guys are showering them with fake attention and borderline worship.

Of course this is not a new phenomena,women have been worshiped by men since the dawn of time. However back then you at least had to leave your house and talk to the person in real life to give them a compliment or drool over them. And it used to be mostly celebrities that got that kind of attention,but thanks to social networks every decent looking girl with a camera can be the next Marlyn Monroe.

It has simply made these girls have massive egos and they become addicted to this kind of attention. If we as men would simply stop letting our hormones do the thinking we would have a lot more humble/down to earth girls like we did in the past. I know I have been guilty of doing this a few times but I quickly learned my lesson,and when I see girls that are only seeking attention I refuse to give it to them.


You sound like you really know what you are doing. :) no sarcasm

But I dont see your concern over this matter...
its just advertising. in fact... the more friends she makes, and more comments she gets, she is valued more in the eyes of online marketers.

and its the general trend I see happening...

Theres essentially no bad press online.. if you get noticed, you get noticed.... viral is viral.
 
I don't do this but what exactly is wrong about it?

Girls post pics for guys, guys comment and boost her ego, win/win. Where is the problem here? If the girls aren't getting attention from one outlet, I'm sure they could find another.

Ok, I do lurk some places. I don't really comment or try to friend anyone, but I still don't see what is wrong with commenting and friending if you like what you see.

Of course this is not a new phenomena,women have been worshiped by men since the dawn of time. However back then you at least had to leave your house and talk to the person in real life to give them a compliment or drool over them. And it used to be mostly celebrities that got that kind of attention,but thanks to social networks every decent looking girl with a camera can be the next Marlyn Monroe.
So it is OK if a celebrity does it but not for regular people? What's the difference? I'm sensing some vagina envy. Yup, you're jealous of these girls' ability to get attention from other guys. Case solved.
 
It worries me that some people are completely ok with that kind of behavior. The main harm it does is set a bad example for the younger crowds when they see these older girls getting all the attention. Its sad when I see these young kids posting pics up dressed like sluts,they see the older girls doing it and getting 5 thousand friends from it so why not them too? No form of attention seeking is healthy,it just depends on what lengths the person goes to in getting it.You have your celebrity attention whores like a Kim Kardash who stages an entire wedding just to get publicity. This is an extreme form of attention seeking of course but what kind of example is this setting for the young girls that watch her?

And of course this applies to both men and women,but like I said women are less inclined to give men that kind of shallow attention. And sorry but not all press is good press. The guys that are drooling over them are not respecting them as women,they are only looking at them in a pathetic lustful way. They cant expect people to take them seriously or respect them when they respect themselves so little.....moral of the story,people need to be more humble and respect themselves. That kind of attention is not the kind you should want from the opposite sex!
 
What about the forever-alone girl? Why don't you focus on her? I bet she would love some attention since she probably never or rarely gets it. Why are you so focused on these women who get gobs of attention for their sexuality? Are they really worth getting upset over since they aren't what you want? It seems pretty clear that this is not the type of girl you want. So, shift your attention elsewhere since you clearly want other qualities. Think of qualities you want in a woman and then look for the girl around you. Gradually, the girls you seem so much to dislike will fade into the background and these girls you prefer will be found and even magnified. You will be drawn to them. Especially if you find a place online that has the "type" of girl you like, or draws the sort of qualities you like in a girl. If you spend enough time there you'll be able to identify them offline. OR you can join a club which draws certain qualities to it, like a literary club would draw people that enjoy reading or writing or literature.

For example, since i've been on this site, i've been able to identify lonely, introverted guys offline. I even found one and we are friends now because that's what i value in a guy. I know that sounds weird but a sense of loneliness I can relate to, and "sense" since I have been here for so long. He's also introverted, which is like me. I value our friendship very very much.

That's my reccomendation for you DFURY.
 

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