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dannyr22

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How does everybody else that lives alone cope, if they are lonely.

Personally I enjoy talking on msn & posting on here alot. It would be nice to have some tips though, as altho it's been half a year in my pad, rebuilding my social life has still not reached 2nd gear yet...
 
At first it wasn't easy cause I didn't have internet access at home, or a computer of my own. Had a few rough nights with no one to talk to. Then I got a computer, got the internet so I could at least chat with my brother online. Then I got more involved in forums, got involved with a group of artist on a project where we conversed online, that helped a lot since it was with people who I shared common interests with. Last year I started playing DC Universe Online and have made a small good group of friends I play with on a regular almost daily basis.
 
Why not say hi to a neighbor? Unless you're in a bad neighborhood..
 
Think of activites you enjoy and then look for clubs or groups for these activites. It can be difficult at times, as when you live alone you have to motivate and push yourself to join things as there is noone behind you to do it for you. I try to go to a certain number of places each week despite how I might be feeling, though when I am really low, I go for very undemanding activities.
 
Poguesy said:
Invite me over ;)

Already have many times ;)

Kat said:
Why not say hi to a neighbor? Unless you're in a bad neighborhood..

I know a couple but they keep themselves to themselves, plus lots of people have moved out of my block lately


Sci-Fi said:
At first it wasn't easy cause I didn't have internet access at home, or a computer of my own. Had a few rough nights with no one to talk to. Then I got a computer, got the internet so I could at least chat with my brother online.

Same here, I had to sleep on the floor until could afford my bed, then had to wait a few weeks for install of my web
 
LOL Yeah what Frozen said, you can walk around naked in your living room...just make sure your curtains/blinds are closed.
 
in exactly the same situation - just approaching eight months living alone in a new job in a new city

no internet at first, just radio and a copy of FF7 for PC : )

but things have settled in okay! still have noone to talk to, and my old friends are spread across the country - and never call anyway

life's very quiet, but sometimes the peace is just perfect - just silence and the space and time to be calm and patient and... not in pain? or at least, not near the chance of a painful situation.

i miss people very much! it's terrible getting your only social time at work - so far it seems the most important thing is just to see someone outside of work about once a month, to stay sane - just going to the pub for an afternoon or something.

still need to find that person though! ; )
 
Hmm ok.. I want you to think back to when you lived with someone. Remember the various things you did that required you to be alone. Those things would have caused you stress because you had a chance of being caught and embarrassed. You can now do those things worry free.

Otherwise I cannot really help you :/
 
recently googled my way to a website called citysocialising.com - may be UK-only (dont know where youre from) but for people who are brave enough to meet strangers for a few drinks or a meal or a film or whatever, it looked pretty promising! and busy too, which is probably the important bit.

otherwise, im in exactly the same situation, and also looking for a solution to this ;D

online games arent a permanent fix it turns out! :O
 

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