I have been feeling angry and hurt over things which a friend has been saying to me over the last few months and am wondering whether the time has come to end the friendship. Maybe I am being over sensitive, but I have been picking up on 'hidden' messages from this friend as well as more direct messages.
When I came out of hospital at the start of October I did feel vulnerable as I have no family to make sure I am ok and I was feeling so weak and also afraid. My friend told me not to rely on her. Then her father was unwell and she told me that her mum was helping her friends despite this, but that in her (my friend's eyes) its 'family before friends'. Although I agree with this, I do think she could have been more tactful and kinder as well. (She didn't actually do anything to help her mum or dad at the time.) This came across as an indirect message to me, as did a later message when she was telling me that her mum would be going out with a disabled friend and was worried about possible snow and how her friend would manage. My friend said that the lady was only a friend therefore her mum had no responsibility towards her.
When I mention to this friend that I am hoping to meet someone to settle down with, she tells me I am too old and 'do I really think I will meet anyone?' When I said to her that I hope to build up a support network, she puts this down as well. Sometimes I really hate her as it feels that for some reason she wants me to be on my own with no support. I think I would rather be with people who feel a certain level of responsibility towards friends (like I do) and who are a bit more tactful and supportive as well.
Am I being too sensitive or would you (whoever is reading this) feel as I do?
When I came out of hospital at the start of October I did feel vulnerable as I have no family to make sure I am ok and I was feeling so weak and also afraid. My friend told me not to rely on her. Then her father was unwell and she told me that her mum was helping her friends despite this, but that in her (my friend's eyes) its 'family before friends'. Although I agree with this, I do think she could have been more tactful and kinder as well. (She didn't actually do anything to help her mum or dad at the time.) This came across as an indirect message to me, as did a later message when she was telling me that her mum would be going out with a disabled friend and was worried about possible snow and how her friend would manage. My friend said that the lady was only a friend therefore her mum had no responsibility towards her.
When I mention to this friend that I am hoping to meet someone to settle down with, she tells me I am too old and 'do I really think I will meet anyone?' When I said to her that I hope to build up a support network, she puts this down as well. Sometimes I really hate her as it feels that for some reason she wants me to be on my own with no support. I think I would rather be with people who feel a certain level of responsibility towards friends (like I do) and who are a bit more tactful and supportive as well.
Am I being too sensitive or would you (whoever is reading this) feel as I do?